Husband is into?

Question

erotic chatting, nude sexual webcam online chatting.

Would you stay in the marriage? No kids involved in this marriage.

What if your family (asian family-dont divorce easily mentality) says its not a reason to end a marriage? One has to let go of things and keep going.

Answer 1

Yeah well you can let go of the the feelings you once had for this person who has hurt you and disrespected you. But you will not let go of the fact that he has hurt you and disrespected you. Get out. It is good their are no children. Run. .... There is another prince awaiting you, one who is not into abusing his wife.

Answer 2

First of all you need to understand why he has this need to do this. What does he feel he is lacking in your relationship that he feels compelled to do this ? Is this something that the two of you together can get into ? Does he love you any less ? How does this affect your own sexual relationship ? Does he come to you more arroused ? If he feels that this is the sole extent of his sexuality, then obviously he has a problem where marriage counseling (sex therapist) might be beneficial. But you also need to examine yourself as well....do you feel you are not giving him what he needs ? What is the erotic chatting and webcamming doing for him ? Talk to your husband. You married him for love, and you really need to be more communicative with him instead of hastily judging his actions. It seems that woman in today's society want to chastise a man for his sexuality when society has blaring from all corners. Im not saying be a nasty pervert and get down on all fours, but try to understand WHY he needs to do this.

Answer 3

I do understand from your perspective and I assume you are an Asian woman.

And you are right, Asian family has very strong traditional marital value. Asian couples don't divorce each other just for the child support personal benefits or a little mistake of other partner made.

Now, I won't dare to tell you how you should handle your marriage or what your expectation of him as your husband. But you have to ask yourself one thing; do you consider of what he is doing is cheating. If so, can you forgive him? If you think you can forgive him but still don't approve of what he's doing and consider that is wrong in marriage, then you need to tell him those porn actitivities are making you unconfortable. And if he loves you enough, he should give up of porns because he doesn't need porn to gratify his sexuality, YOU ARE EVERYTHING HE NEEDS.

Answer 4

The question is...don't you deserve better? It would seem what he has is an obsession...obsession is an illness. I would just give him the opportunity to go get help and make a change....and then divorce him if he doesn't. Like I said...don't you deserve better? And don't YOU have a right to be happy?

I know in many cultures, things are not so simple.... in many asian cultures, it is accepted by wives that their husbands cheat with prostitutes....they don't like it, but they accept it. It is better to keep the husband, because divorced women in asia are looked at as 2nd class citizens and rarely have a chance for a second marriage. But if you are in the US..... it's a different culture. You are not restricted by culture and acceptance. The constitution says...pursuit of happiness.... so pursue it sweetie.

Answer 5

you need to play the game too, get online and let him catch you, hopefully he will leave and ask for a divorce then its not on your shoulders. But I would let someone in the family that is trustworthy of you in on what you are going to do, so that you can still hold your head high later. Good luck

Answer 6

Personally, I'd leave as this would be offensive and disrespectful to me. Only you know what you can put up with.

Here's what Dr. Phil has to say about porn;
Pornography isn't real, it's a fantasy. It's makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone! It's also somebody's daughter who has taken a really, really wrong turn. She's demeaning herself, debasing herself, humiliating herself and she's being exploited by people who are funded by you. It is a sick, demented, twisted world. It's not healthy, it's not natural and it's not normal.

Answer 7

You can confront him and say Hey i didn't sign up for this type of behavior its not in our marriage contract I'm the sure thing not the fake people online give him a reality check and tell his family he's not paying attention to you. get him in trouble hehe

Answer 8

No and since there are no kids involved I would leave him. Your family or his family may not see it as a valid reason, but it is because he is committing adultry. Leave him and find someone who loves you and has eyes, mind and heart only for you.

Answer 9

FIRST OF ALL IM A 24 YR VIET GUY SO I CAN RELATE TO UR FAMILY......OK WELL HES DOING ALL THAT I ASSUME UR NOT INVOLVED IN IT.....I ASSUME U TOLD HIM TO STOP RITE....IS HE ASIAN TOO???.....LET ME TELL U HOW I FEEL......U R DA ONE MARRIED TO THIS MAN...NOT UR FAMILY!!!...U DEAL WITH THOSE STUFF NOT EM....U R IN CONTROL OF UR HAPPINESS N SUCESS...NOT HIM NOT UR FAMILY.......UR OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE UR DECISIONS FORGET UR HARDHEADED ASIAN FAMILY...MY FAMIY IS ASIAN TOO BUT DAMN I ALWAYS SPEAK MY MIND N STAND UP FOR MYSELF.......IF IT IS HURTING UR MARRIAGE SIT DONW N TALK TO HIM.....BTW....HE AINT INTO U IF HES INTO THOSE THOSE EVERYDAY......OR HE MIGHT BE HOOK ON IT LONG TIME AGO BEFORE HE MET U....OR U AINT SATIFYING HIM ENOUGH....I DONT KNOW THE SITUATION ENOOUGH BUT IF INDEED U TRY YALL BEST TO LOVE HIM N TRIED TO ASK HIM TO STOP N HE DOEST...HE NEEDS TO RESPECT U!! ......GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP.....GOOD LUCK.....ONE MORE THING....TO STOP THE PAIN U HAVE TO LET URSELF BE FREE...

Answer 10

Id' get a divorce and no one would talk me out of it. If others think this guy is so great, they won't have a problem moving him into their place.