They are really bad for each other. She abuses him and he cheats on her. They are not related by blood at least I don't think they are. She's the daughter of my mom's sister. He's the son of my dad's sister. He cheats on her all the time and she abuses him all the time. They only want to get married because she's pregnant. How can I stop them?
2007-01-26 12:55:28 · 9 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell her he's cheating on her
2007-01-26 13:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't much you can do to stop them, but you can sit down with both of them separately and find out if they really care about each other enough to ruin any chances of finding their true loves. Talk to them about how a baby does not mean they have to be married, that in fact, they may end up hurting the child more in the long run if the force themselves to live together and have such a horrible relationship. This will likely cause the child to require therapy in a few years, and not growing up in a loving household, they will not develop good people skills and learn respect. They need to focus more on this child's well-being than just being together for the sake of having a child together. If you can't convice them this is wrong, then you've tried your best, and you can sleep easier for that, but they will make their own choice, be it a mistake or not.
2007-01-26 21:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't! They are going to do what they want to do. I just hope no one gets hurt or killed in the process. I also believe it is wrong to get married just because a girl is pregnant. The marriage is doomed from the start. he feels pressure then resents it and finally the break up. So if you add a violent guy to the scenario, it has the potential to get ugly fast. Them being cousins by marriage doesn't make it wrong or a violation of the law. So there is nothing to stop them.... except their own good sense...which they apparantly don't have. Time for you to Bow Out!
2007-01-26 21:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is- you can't. People only learn from their mistakes, not from the wisdom of others. If you express your concerns like I know you want to, this is only liable to drive a wedge between you and one or both of them. Becoming parents together is the stupidest reason in the world to get married, but you dont know... people change. And nothing will change you faster than becoming a parent... the outlook is dreary for this couple, i think. But i know you will be a good cousin to both and try to be supportive of the decisions they make (no matter how bad they are)... Good luck to you and your new 2nd cousin coming!
2007-01-26 21:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't dissuade them, at this time - it's just too late to. And they won't be listening, anyway, so it'd be pointless to. Let them sort out their own issues eventually - you can only hope for the best for them now.
2007-01-26 21:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Stay out of their lives. Unless they have asked for your help, which i don't think they have, then stay out of it. Be there with tissues for the heartbreak though.
2007-01-26 21:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand that your concerned about it, but this is something that they will have to learn on their own.
2007-01-26 21:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it they are your relatives and its none of your business
2007-01-26 21:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
burn down their trailer...
2007-01-26 21:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by techteach03 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋