How does it feel when your own mother does not believe you're beautiful?

Question

my own mother thinks or implies that i'm not beautiful. how do i react to this? i know i'm beautiful but when my own mother tells me this i can't help but get mad. its just sad.
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Answer 1

Honestly, that REALLY sucks. It's hard to believe a parent would think that and even more...make their feelings apparent.

That's just very odd and very out of hand.

Answer 2

Sounds like she is the one with a problem. I've never known a mother who didn't think her children were beautiful. Don't let her destroy your self-esteem, just keep telling yourself that you are beautiful and that she has a problem. Maybe, that will help you to understand that it is not you that is falling short of expectations, but her. She may need some counseling, as that is, definitely, strange behavior for a mother,.

Answer 3

Hey the bad stuff is always easier to believe than the good. The wise say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Me thinks your mother finds nothing attractive about her own life so she's trying to sabotage yours. Misery loves company and sadly sometimes its at the expense of the ones we love. Please learn to love yourself for exactly who and what you are then you'll be equipped to throw a cloak of charity over your mothers shortcomings and love her anyway, even tho she's more insecure than you will ever be. All the best and keep smiling, you are beautiful, as we all our in our own way.

Answer 4

When I first saw this question the first thing I thought about was how do you feel about yourself. I know now from your statement that you think that you are beautiful it is just that you have a problem with dealing with the rejection from your mother. Sometimes, it is best to look at what would possibly make her imply this. Is she and your father together or is she a single mom? What does she feel abut herself, maybe she is projecting what she feels aboiut herself onto you. Sometimes it is good to say, "you know what mom, I have my great beauty from you (both inner and outer). Thank you so much for all that you have given me... I love you." For her to deny your beauty would be to deny hers.

Answer 5

Shame on your mother. I can't believe that she would say something so hurtful to her own child. I would say that your mom may have some mental problems or she is jealous of your beauty. What is important is that you know you are beautiful, so don't listen to mom. She is to be pitied for her callous comments.

Answer 6

That your mother needs help! God bless you. I'm sure you are especially hard on yourself because of this. It doesn't mean you are not beautiful or that someone would not find you beautiful, it only says to me that your mom needs a psychiatrist, pronto.

Answer 7

The mother has confident issues of her own. She's not fit to be a mother. What would make you think that?

Answer 8

How sad, I too have a mother like this, she likes to say mean spirited things to me, why, I will never understand. My friends say it's because she is jealous,I don't know, but when I finally told her that this was unacceptable, she stopped speaking to me! I'm so sorry!

Answer 9

Just ignore what she say. Just believe yourself that you have your own beauty.I believe everybody have their own beauty either inside or outside. But the most important thing is, you must have your beauty inside your body.

Answer 10

Ouch! I suppose you should try to think of something dignified to say, but I can't help you there. When I'm mad, I tend to get catty, so I'd probably say something like "I must take after you" or "People think we look a lot alike"