i have a big problem,and a big question to ask.i am a christian,and i like someone who's not.what should i do?

Question

i think i may be falling inlove with him,very soon.i dont know what to do because he's not a christian.im trying to work on that meaning talking toi him about becoming one.im affraid im gonna lose him in the mean time.help me

Answer 1

If you truly cared about your religion, you would not be willing to date or involve yourself with a non-Christian. And if you were as Christian as you say, you'd understand that God will guide you to your life partner-- your fears of losing him or trying to convert him probably aren't part of the plan. You should understand that love isn't about fear of losing someone.

Answer 2

If he is not at all serious in becoming a Christian then I would really consider moving on and finding someone who is. Although it may not seem a big deal now, it will become huge when you become tired of going to church by yourself and especially when you have children.
Most times people are not willing to become religious for anyone or change their religion. They may go through the motion and try but they will never truly feel comfortable about it and will eventually stop going all together. It all depends on how you envision your life with him and your children.

Answer 3

Christ says that even He will become a stumbling block for many. What does that mean? I believe it means that people will become so wrapped up in the ritualistic and the overly edited writings about Him that they will not see that He was not a person who cared about rituals and ceremonies. He cared about the quality of a persons life and He did not associate with other church goers, He was always found among those who did not fit the church goers ideas of a devotee to God. Why, because He realized those people needed His love too because God loved them just as much as anyone else. If love is the basis of your life with this guy then you are already in right standing with the way life should be. If you want to make him into a follower of your values then you will ruin him while blinding yourself.

Answer 4

I would not have a relationship with this guy. The best relationships are when the two people have similar values and morals. But YOU have to decide for yourself what you are willing to put up in a partner and what is completely unacceptable. Do not expect someone to change their views. It happens but don't expect it. If being a Christian is very important to you then his not being a Christian could cause a lot of problems. Talk to him about your doubts. Knowing his thoughts on this might help make your decision easier. Best of luck!

Answer 5

It sounds as if your Christian faith is central in your life. It is in mine and I wouldn't consider being with anyone who isn't one, but that is just me. I know of couples who tried to make it work with different faiths--it became a major issue. At some point, you need to let him know that you are Christian and if he has a problem with it. Then you will know.

In a relationship, you cannot change another person--period. If your potential mate (or mate) wants to convert, it must be of their own free will. Free will is something that I know that God gave to us--for better or for worse. I know that there is an emphasis on "evangelizing" others in some forms of Christianity, but, honestly, faith is a person's private affair; between them and their "higher power" of their understanding. You or anyone else cannot get in the way of that. If want to show him the best in your faith, "walk the walk." Lead by example.

And, if you lose him, it wasn't meant to be. If being a Christian is an important characteristic in a partner, make it known and then move on and find someone who is. It won't be easy, but you cannot compromise your values merely because you care for someone who doesn't have the qualities you seek. You are settling for less than what you want.

Answer 6

It depends on your position on the religion topic and his also. Ultimately, I find it comforting that most religious divergence have roots in history more than divine inspiration. Love on the other hand tends to transcend all boundaries. Love truly conquers all, if it's right, if it's genuine, all other details tend to find solutions, some though just require more work than others. I'm catholic, married a lutheran, and that in a Anglican church.

Communication is key to any successful relationship, in love, family or friendship. Communicate your apprehensions, maybe he'll volunteer a solution you haven't envisioned yet, maybe he won't. Ultimately though, you need to know your own flexibility on the subject and you need to know his position if you ever want this to go forward. Remember, sometimes, compromise is the best solution for the greater good.

Answer 7

Would you rather lose your faith, your ticket to heaven or a guy you aren't married to? People from differnt religons do date and go on to marry, but there are many problems with that.

You shoudl talk to him, but he could just "fake" becoming a christrian so that he can be with you. And if thats the case, then tehre is really no love. You can not force someone to follow a faith they do not belive in.

Your best bet is to move on and find a man who shares your same religous veiws. It will be easier on you, church and child raising won't be an issues (if you marry that is)

Answer 8

One of the quickest ways of ruining a friendship is trying to convert the person. Everyone has the right to their own beliefs.
It would be unfortunate if you feel that you cannot possibly be in a romantic relationship with someone who was not Christian.

Christ was all about unconditional love and forgiveness. If you are radical and intolerant of non-Christians....then you are doomed to a broken heart.

Answer 9

I say that people can change, but if he is not interested in ever being saved than that gives you something MAJOR to consider. My husband prayed for me for years before we got married and he would not have married me had I not dedicated myself to the Lord. And AMEN sister I did, back in 2001. But, I do belive that God desires for everyone of us here on Earth to become Christians, so I pray that your loved one will come around. I feel that life would be hard if you BOTH didn't agree 110% to put the Lord first. :)

Answer 10

One I think you shouldn't push him. The more you push someone the farther away they usually go.
Two yes you should talk to him about your faith and make sure he respects you religious beleifs. Who know eventually one day he may feel the same way.
Three you should think about how important your significant other being of the same faith as you is to you. If you can't accept him without him being a Christian or he can't accept you being one then the relationship probably won't work.
You just need to communicate your feelings about it but don't push him. Pushing him too hard could push him away.