Fell for it again!?

Question

I'm 24, and I have 3 children Dara, Leah, and Larendica.
dara's 8, /leah's 6, Larendica is 3.
And I'm married. My husband wants a big family and I'm fine with my kids now. He says that I should please him because he's my husband, but I really didn't want anymore kids, but he told me he I, was the only one even before we were married,was the only person he got hard for! He's making me feel guilty and so whenever he does, we end up having sex. Now I'm pregnant, and I'm thinking of having an abortion,

what should I do?

Answer 1

man o man...... You need to get some birth control and quit thinking your man is the boss of you. It's your body, take care of it!!!! He's is a manipulative husband,, that has you buffaloed into thinking it's what he want!!!! While your wants and needs doesn't matter. Stand up to him and tell him no more children. Do what you want Good luck!!

Answer 2

Don't have an abortion and after this child, tell your husband you are done having children and get fixed. Yes he is your husband, but there is a line to be drawn when giving into one another.

He needs to respect the fact that having another child could put your health at risk, is going to cause more finacial strain on HIM (unless he's a jerk and makes you go to work when you need to be home with the kidlets) And that chances are, you are going to have a buy a bigger house (LOTS more money) a bigger or another car (more money) have bigger groc bills (more more MORE money) and well just more stress to you.


Please, for this childs sake, have him/her ( i think its gonna be a her!!!) And get fixed. If he doesn't like that, then he really needs to get over it. he is being increadbly selfish and needs to mature a little more. If he wants more children after this one, then you two shoudl talk about adopting. Alot of men just don't understand the strain it does to our bodies and what we have to go through in being pregnant, but I guess thats a blessing since we don't know the hardish(IE back breaking Labor) of providing for a family.

Answer 3

You should look inside yourself and decide if you want that child. You shouldn't have a child for anyone but yourself. You must want the kids. God forbid anything happen, you are raising those kids,not him.

After you decide and follow through with what you want to do about the current pregnancy. You should start taking birth control. That way you can keep having sex and the chance of getting pregnant again will be slim to none.

Also, I bet your the main caregiver...leave him alone for a whole week with the kids with no help! no babysitter, no grandparents! You take a much needed vacation! I bet he will chill with wanting more kids for a while.

Answer 4

Your husband sounds very manipulative, and controlling. This a partnership, and he needs to start acting like a partner. It takes alot out of you physically to keep popping out these babies and caring for them. He has no clue. You need to step up and express you feelings loud and clear. After this baby, thats it, you want to be an effective and good mom, not an overworked, overwhelmed and unable to give your best to these children kind of mom. He needs to listen, and quit being so selfish. After this baby get your tubes tied. Definately get on some kind of birth control. I have my own opinions on abortion, but I will not express them here. Its your body, you do what you feel is right for you.

Answer 5

DONT KILL THE BABY!!!!!!!!! He KNOWS you feel guilty so he uses that against you. YOU should have put your foot down and should have told him NO you dont want anymore kids! YOUR so young!! Your only 24 and you have 3 kids already!!! Tell him to give you a break. TALK THIS MATTER OVER WITH YOUR HUSBAND!!!

Answer 6

Abortion is not the answer. Do not make the baby pay. Having unprotected sex = baby. Use birth control. . . they have pills, inserts called Encare, foams. It is not the baby's fault. PLEASE don't do that. A child is a blessing. Don't worry about how you are going to take care of it -God will provide that part.

Accept your consequences and responsibilities. . . and make your husband happy. But most important. - PLEASE don't terminate your pregnancy. I'm sure your husband would be absolutely hurt by that . . .

Answer 7

You are in a good position to put your baby up for adoption.

So many women crave the chance of being a parent.

You need to look inside your heart and make your own decision on what you should do. To thine own self be true.

You need to set boundaries with your husband.

Answer 8

It's your decision. If you want an abortion, then you should get one. You already told him you didn't want more children. Also, I suggest you get your tubes tied after this, that way he can't trick you into having more. If you're really the only woman he wants, then he shouldn't try to trick you into having more children. My fiance wants 4 kids, but I only want one or two. But he knows that he can't force me into having more than I want and he says that he can live with only 2 if that's what I really want.

Answer 9

I personally dont beleive in abortion,but I dont think your husband should be tricking you into having children that you dont want,so you need to have your child and then secretly go get on birth control pills.

Answer 10

so you are pregnant and you are going to think about committing murder and have an abortion. you are the one that will have to live with that decision. Tell your husband no more kids-----period after this one. ever heard of birth control pills or other contraceptives.