It's his card but he got me one with my name on it.
Am I supposed to "ask first" if it's okay - like I'm 12??
2007-01-26 12:27:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO you shouldnt have to ask your husband. its your money too so i dont think it should be a problem.
2007-01-26 12:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by jenii 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Asking for permission and keeping him informed are two different things... Perhaps the card has a limit and he is close to it or there may be surcharges if you go over a certain amount. Talk to each other regarding things financially because it is the #1 cause for arguements between partners. It isn't always about a "control thing" like he is the boss of you, sometimes it is about financial responsibility. Don't get all worked up over it... discuss it. If he has asked that you "ask" to use the card, ask him to explain a little further and get more details as to why... is there any particular reason why you would have to ask... again limits on the card, financial aspirations, certain perks on the card etc.
If he expects this of you , then you should be able to expect the same of him in return... that way you know where your credit rating lies...
2007-01-26 20:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by lastepmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't need permission, but you also shouldn't just go out and buy stuff without having talked it over with your husband. You should both have a set budget and a limit on what you can spend per month, especially if you don't have a job and he does. When I get married I'm taking care of the finances, and both my fiance and I are going to have a set spending limit per month after all the bills are paid for.
2007-01-26 20:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both work and contribute to the bills - no. If he pays the bills alone - I still think $32 is being kind of petty to make you ask.
Even then, it's smart to agree on an amount (and I'm talking like $200 - not $32) that if the purchase exceeds that amount - you BOTH must discuss it with the other before making the purchase.
2007-01-26 23:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are always supposed to ask before buying something, Wouldn't be kinda p!ssed if HE went out and bought something over 20 bucks without asking you? (yeah...it goes BOTH ways sweetheart)
It's not about control, its about trust and respect. And if you go out and just spend spend spend without letting him know, he;s going to be really upset and lose some level of trust with you. Yes you ARE in fact a grown women, but you are not a SINGLE grown women. You are a MARRIED grown women. You are on a team, so you have to live like it.
I'm sure he asks you if he wants to buy something a little pricy, you should give him that respect back. It's only fair..
2007-01-26 20:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as far as finances go, my wife will always ask before she makes any kind of purchase, but that's not because I want her to, she does it out of courtesy for me so I know what our finances look like. I always tell that if she sees something she wants to get it, but still she asks. Now, I always talk to her about any purchases I want to make that are more than $5, but that's because she handles the finances. It's always good though to know what the other is doing so you have you finances straight.
However, if he's making you ask for "permission", that is just wrong. It's a marriage and you should share everything, including money and credit.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 20:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by LOS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask for permission if its something under, say, $100 or so, anything over that I'd at least give him a heads up that there will be a X charge on the card for this or that.
2007-01-26 20:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything under $100 you don't have to ask. Anything above, you may discuss with him. However, there's a difference between buying one $32 item and buying 10 to 20 $32 items........ie spend thriftily and wisely. If in doubt, "discuss" with him, not "ask" as in a little girl asking her father.
2007-01-27 03:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should let him now you spent $32 on the card. If you don't and it shows up on the statment. He will start wounderind what else you are buying with out his knowledge.
2007-01-26 20:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but if i was going to use it i would spend more than $32
2007-01-26 21:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what are the "rules" in your house?
Have you had credit card debt before. Is the purchase something that he would be morally or ethically ashamed of?
if not, buy it!
2007-01-26 21:00:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋