one day we were out shopping and we saw a group of guys we knew from school... she wouldn't talk to any of them, so i did. now she's mad at me and she wont talk to me. she said that im self centred and that i always "steal" all the guys and attention from her. whats wrong with her? how can i get her to be my friend again, and show her i dont or wont "steal the spotlight" from her?
2007-01-26 12:24:31 · 9 answers · asked by kateee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like your friend is jealous of you. Maybe she has poor self esteem. Just because you went to talk to people you know from school and she didn't want to doesn't mean your trying to "steal the spotlight". Tell her she could have went over to talk to the boys too, instead of staying by herself. As far as getting her as a friend back, she will talk to you when she is ready. Good luck and I hope your friend will grow up to realize that she has a good friend and needs some self esteem help!
2007-01-26 12:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, how old are you two? Really not trying to be sarcastic or anything, but knowing your ages might give me a better idea of the situation, 'cause I know that when you are in middle school and high school, things often seem a lot worse than they actually are...
She may really feel like you always "steal the spotlight" or "take the guys," but just like most teenagers, she's probably dealing with a lot of her own insecurities...and although you might not mean to do it - to hurt your friend - she might perceive it that way...
There's only so much you can do. What I might suggest is just trying to talk to her and really find out how she feels what she feels - why she basically thinks that you're out to get her or something....And then you can explain that it isn't your intention and you're sorry if she feels that way.
If she's able to understand and believe you, then great. If she's not, you can't stress yourself out over trying to always restrict yourself, for fear of making her so paranoid.
Now, if the situation is like...She really likes a guy, but she's too shy or nervous to say anything to him...And so you go talk to him and you two end up going out, that's one thing...
'Cause there are a trillion guys out there, for you to move in on a guy that you know your best friend really likes...
But if it's as innocent as you described it - you just being more confident to say hey to some guys you guys both know...then, it really does sound like she might be making something out of nothing....and might actually just really need to work on her own confidence, instead of trying to bring you down about yours...
Hope that sheds some light - Good luck!
2007-01-26 20:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Meya P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she needs some self confidence and is jealous of you because you have more than her or at least enough to have gone up and talked to those guys. Invite her to do something with her and explain that it is just that you are more confident than her and want to help her build that up. for example, when you saw those guys, or if you see them next time, talk her into being the first one to go up and talk to them.
2007-01-26 20:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Your gf is a self-centered wimp that can't speak up for herself and she's laying her problem on you. You are outgoing and comfortable with intiating talk with guys. She's not.
Dump her. She'll pull this same crap again and make you feel bad. Get a friend who is glad for your people skills.
2007-01-26 20:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, to me, she really doesnt seem like a REAL friend. she may be, but maybe she has like jealousy problems or something. Ya never know. but thats kind of a weird of her. and rude too. she shouldnt hate someone just because they did one thing. and she might be shy. but thats just weird!!!!!!!!!!try to talk to her. ask her why she is mad. maybe she had something come up in her life that she is just mad about! or she possibly could just have something that she doesnt wanna talk about, maybe dealing with school or something. you never know. i dont know if this has helped any, but i hope so!! thanks!!
2007-01-26 20:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by ily[; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretend like the whole converstion never happend, girls are stuiply tempermental and moody so she will get over most likely. If not she isn't worth spending your time with, so then get a new friend.
2007-01-26 20:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by LALALALALALALA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste your time trying to figure out why she is jealous of you, it is a waste of time, an apology is enough
2007-01-26 20:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just jeliouse cause u can talk to guys and she is shy
2007-01-26 20:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her or get anoda frnd to talk to her
2007-01-26 20:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋