I have a friend who recently came out to me. She is from a very conservative background and is having a difficult time coming to terms with it. While she is seeking professional help, does anyone have any suggestions of how I can help her get through this? (I have several gay friends, but knew them after they were out. I would talk to them, but she is adament about not telling anyone in our community yet)
2007-01-26 12:19:35 · 10 answers · asked by crmsn_and_clover 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just continue to be her friend and to be there for her.
2007-01-26 12:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing a very important thing already - just being her friend. Support her and keep treating her the same way you did before, and that will have a big impact. I can tell you from experience in working with gay youth, those who have friends to support them are far less likely to end up feeling isolated, lost and alone, because they'll have a good support network to fall back on.
Is there a Gay/Straight Alliance in your school? If so, you could both join. Or start your own if you're feeling especially keen (that might be a huge undertaking, however). If she's seeking professional help, it should be someone who understands the issues and won't try to mess with her head and "turn her straight". Because it's been proven that doesn't work and it's a waste of time and money.
Coming from a conservative background can be hard, especially with that environment around you. Help her track down supportive resources online, in libraries, etc. Check around your community, if you're in a large-ish city, there might be a gay/lesbian/bisexual youth group in your area. But most importantly I'd say stick by her side and let her know you're there for her. I think that's a very, very big thing you can do. Once she becomes for comfortable with herself, she might be ready to talk to other people as well. But if she's told you, she definitely trusts you, so helping her through the tough start of finding help (a counselor) and starting to be comfortable with herself just by being supportive and accepting of her. Telling her it's okay, that she is who she is, she's normal, etc. Being a good friend is a huge asset.
2007-01-26 12:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 09:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that your feelings for her haven't changed and if anything you think more of her now that she has admitted to being gay and let her know that there are groups out there made up of gay and lesbian people and that they will not judge her as will a large amount of the hetersexual community.
2007-01-26 13:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to confort her as best as you can. tell her she is normal like everyone else and there is ABSOLUTLEY nothing wrong with being gay. its normal and tell her NOT to give 2 sh*ts about what people or society think. its HER life
2007-01-26 12:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,once your out, your out.
If she isn't ready, let her do it in her own time. Maybe she isn't sure. Leave her to figure it out. she will ask for support when she needs it. Let her know your available for support if needed. It prolly will mean allot to her.
2007-01-26 12:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to pray GOD loves everyone even gays
2007-01-26 21:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by miky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tallk to them but you don't have to tell them who you are asking for. they don't need to know who the person is. just be there for her, and tell her its okay to be who she wants to be, and it doesn't matter what sex she perfers. good luck.
2007-01-26 12:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, IF SHE IS A GREAT FRIEND, JUST BE THERE TO SUPPORT HER THE WHOLE WAY... THAT WAY SHE KNOWS YOU CARE.
2007-01-26 12:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Akon_luva_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you're there for her, and actually be there for her.
2007-01-26 18:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋