He won't go to a psychologist. He says that he is helpless and that he's a "bad gene."
There is this guy I know and he is about 28. He dropped out of college because his anxiety was very sevear back then. He keeps thinking that people in his family suffer from mental illnesses, but I think it's all in his head. Can't people live a normal life even when they suffer from anxiety? I think if he really wanted to he could get out of it. It's been years, and he doesn't go out of the house. He is never around people other than his family. He doesn't work and I'm guessing that he wants to spend his entire living behind closed doors. I'm just saying that it's easy to simply say that you have problems. It's easy to make excuses. I'm much younger than him. I want him to see the world. I would consider schizephrenia to greatly interfere with someones everyday life. Something must have happened to this kid. Something traumatic. Any advice?
2007-01-26 12:12:01 · 5 answers · asked by >mjd 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He use to see a psychologist, but he said it didn't work.
2007-01-26 12:12:41 · update #1
I meant to put this in the mental health section.
2007-01-26 12:18:37 · update #2
Not the exact answers I'm looking for.
2007-01-26 12:27:55 · update #3
Trying to 'convince' him that things will be okay will only make it worse. Obviously he needs two things: the will to change and the recognition that he has a problem that can be changed. The most you can do is to work towards showing him that his view of reality is warped. Unless you're really close to him and see him and talk to him a lot, that may be impossible for you. But if you can do it, be creative; don't lecture or nag him. You kind of have to trick someone like this into seeing that what they're telling themselves doesn't make sense. If he's in love with you, that would give you some leverage -- by becoming aware of being in love, he might be able to reflect that the state of consciousness when he's in love is quite different from the state of consciousness when he's filled with anxiety or depression. (I think he may be depressed, btw.) When he reflects on the differing states of mind, he could be moving towards seeing that he can affect his state of mind.
In any case, he isn't your responsibility, if he's just an acquaintance. Ultimately he has to take responsibility for himself. Some people do, some don't. Just be consistent with him about telling him to look for help and to question his present view of reality.
2007-01-26 12:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if it is interfering with his life so much. Anxiety can run if families. He has to get help, at least see a counselor, talk therapy, there is absolutely no shame in that, in fact it shows more maturity and character than ignoring and not getting help. He may need meds, I have no idea. If he had experienced some trauma in childhood he has to talk it out, deal with those demons, so he doesn't have to suffer anymore becaus to have such severe anxiety is to suffer. I have been on Effexor for that and depression and that has been the best decision I have ever made. Please help him, he deserves it. Good luck. Hug him for me ok? :)
2007-01-26 20:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by Arwen73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Xanax, Zoloft, Buspirone
2007-01-26 20:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, get him to a psychiatrist, a Doctor who may prescribe meds. and it will take some time to figure the correct meds, in the long haul he will be much happier.
2007-01-26 20:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs professional help. Drugs probably won't help, and doing nothing about it only allows him to get worse. Get him to get the help he needs.
2007-01-26 20:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by sluttyfawne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋