How do I tell my parents that I am bisexual?

Question

I am exactly 15.6 years old, but the only people that know I'm bisexual are my friends at school. How do I expose it to them? Plus, they don't support being bisexual or gay.

Answer 1

Don't tell them anything until you're old enough to survive on your own. They might kick you out or send you to one of those creepy conversion camps that don't really work. Also, you might want to wait and see if you turn out to be gay instead of bi. Most bisexual guys eventually realize they much prefer men over women, and you don't want to give them false hope that one day you might settle with a woman.

Answer 2

Honestly, I would recommend you don't do it. Just continue being a kid, because that is exactly how they see you. Once you go off to college and have a year or two of living on your own, then break the news. They will at least know that you made a grown-up decision. Right now, they will think you're only going through a phase, which could be true, but if it is, why upset them?

So at least get out of the house before you break it to them.

As far as your friends, let it develop slowly, just taking it one day at a time. It's not something everyone should be concerned about anyway. Taunts and names will come out, but so will everyone who supports your preferences and your lifestyle. There are more than you think. And you may help others cope to deal with the social stigma associated to bisexuality while your outting process takes place.

I would recommend you study the Kinsey Scale, which is a scale that rates that everyone is bisexual, some more than others, other less. Those in the middle normally could go either way, which is how I think you are right now.

Continue learning about yourself. Take it like a science project. Once you figure out who you truly are, then reveal the results to anyone who asks. Remember: tell it to anyone who asks! There is really no need for anyone to know about your sexuality. Straight people don't go to their parents and say, "Hey, mom, by the way, I'm straight." They just live their lives and date whoever they want to date.

You should do the same. This is you, not them.

But keep growing and learning. And get some results five years now. Who knows? Maybe you WERE just going through a phase. Or maybe not. You're at a perfect age to begin learning what you like, what you don't like, and how you like it. So try things, observe where your limits are - you have plenty, believe me - and just take it one day at a time.

Don't worry about your parents just yet. Learn about figuring out who you really are and what you really like. Then if you want to share, then just say it casually. You didn't just break your leg or something, you just realized you also enjoy male relationships.

If your friends leave you, by the way, take rest in knowing that they were not really true friends. Look for those who say, "You're gay? why are you telling me? So what?" Those are pretty much "there" already, you know what I mean? There's no sense explaining. Homosexuality is a fact of life. Like I said, nobody says, "Hey, mom, by the way, I'm straight."

So good luck.

Take care.

AND USE PROTECTION. I can't stress that enough.

PROTECT YOURSELF
PROTECT YOURSELF
PROTECT YOURSELF

Okay. Rant's over.

Answer 3

IF you're not ready for rejection, don't tell them. As someone who was thrown out of the house as a gay teenager, I'd advise you to keep your mouth shut. I won't say you're too young to "know" your orientation. I was damn sure I was gay at 7! But you're most likely not in any shape to take care of yourself if your parents throw you out. Please wait, don't tell them until you're ready and able to be on your own.

Answer 4

if you like girls, i'd give serious re-consideration to the 'bisexual' thing

once that's out, it's hard to put that genie back in the bottle

at under 16, if you like girls also, there's no way you can know that you're ready to toss aside the idea of settling down with a girl in 10-15 years

Answer 5

Uhm....I wouldn't suggest it at your current age....but if you must. Just jump in the pool. No amount of planning will prepare you for the criticism and rejection you may go through.

Simply put, if you decide to....it's gonna be tough around the house until they accept it and don't think of it as a disease or something "Jesus alone can cure"

Answer 6

i no everyones telling u 2 wait till ur older- n meby ther rong but if ther gonna kick u out- ther gonna kick u out- no matter wat age- so u have to chose to b kicked out now or later......ur choice ,but i suggest later. Im gay n my parents dont no cus my parents r religeous n they think its as gross as being a alien--- id b out of the house in a minute,,, so im waitin till im in and/or done university or can sopport myself.


if all that is usless to u n u need to tell them,, call someone u can count on to live with or stay with for a while before u tell them......but i dont no ur parents n they might not kick u out...

hope i helped--if need more help--email me at riding_baby@html
.....im 15 bi the way.. or 15.2

Answer 7

You don't have to tell them yet. Would you go up to them and say, "Mom and Dad, sit down, I have something to tell you... I'm straight."
Simply put, they really don't need to know at this point unless you are dating someone, and the above answerers have a point about you being able to support yourself if they (your parents) won't.

Answer 8

Good luck to ya...but i would wait until i'm old enough know my self a little better and would be able to support myself.

Answer 9

My parents do not accept the fact that im a lesbian but they deal with it. just flat out tell them.

Answer 10

Don't tell them. You are very young yet. You have lots and lots of time...........

Make the best of your growing up years, and enjoy yourself....