felt like you were falling for them all over again? May be you should/shouldn't. Why should your heart rule your head can you change that? Is it a matter of self control or does the heart over come even the strongest of us?
2007-01-26 11:42:34 · 31 answers · asked by itgirl23 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Lol my heads on fire. Look a little deeper you may see more. The opposite to love is not hate but total indifference.
2007-01-26 11:59:29 · update #1
Heart vs. Mind
(idea) by fraktu (5.6 y) (print) ? Mon Feb 12 2001 at 13:12:51
Everything in life, it's all a mixture of the two. Your head tells you one thing and your heart another. The defining factor is which one you follow.
Someone once told me that making a decision is just a process that everyone goes through. The actual decision is made seconds after it is originally posed, and the rest of the time you spend just persuading yourself that it's right. Why is it that there is such a reluctance of people to actually choose, to commit?
People can spend months or years worrying about things, getting themselves worked up, just worrying and stressing. In a book, I happened to pick up about an hour ago, by the infamous Dale Carnargie I was told that there are three short steps to getting over this:
* Know the facts
* Make a Decision
* Act on it
As far as I can see, from my own personal experience too, everybody jumps to the second step ignoring the first and trying to get it out of the way as soon as possible. I for one can spend days, months worrying about things. Things that if you sit back and think about, you realise you don't know all the facts about.
So back to the original point - Decisions are hard in the first place. And perhaps a sensible three step plan might work in general. But then along come your feelings, emotions, your heart and make everything so much harder. The facts stare you in the face. Your mind can tell you one thing and your heart tell you the exact opposite.
Take relationships for example. "Love is Blind" - such a great saying, but with truth. Your heart tells you to trust her, to believe everything she tells you, and yet your head there on the other side is cautiously observing all the facts, deliberating over them and coming back with, "Watch out there's something going on here, she's up to something".
What do you do?? follow the three step plan and search out the facts?? hire a P.I. to follow her around??
At the end of the day (just to end on a cliche!) you have to go with your heart, it's a delicate thing, easily broken - but you have to risk it. Life is all about risks!! But most importantly, once you've taken that risk/decision put it behind you and STOP worrying!
2007-02-02 07:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♪♫♪♫♪♪♫♪♪♫♪♫♪♫♪♪♫♪♫♪♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, some peoples hearts do rule their heads, hence the number of kiddies around who do not know if their dad is really their dad, or if their mother even knows, or in some cases, even care. If every woman I had a crush for in the past had caused me to rush off uncaringly to be with them, I would never had found the one who is the real love of my life. beauty fades in the end anyway, real love will never fade, dwindle, or cease to be so worthwhile. Have a look around you, how many mums and dads are just ordinary people, doing there daily thing. But if you look a bit closer, you may see the bond that intimately joins those couples so closely and lovingly. Their kiddies seem to know it and sense it, which makes for a solid family home, whether rich or poor. I was lucky, I came from such a home. We were poor, proud and cared for each other unhesitatingly. A pair of bright flashing eyes will never replace a heart of true gold. I hope this answers your question.
2007-02-01 05:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by wisernow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The heart has nothing to do with it. There is something in that person that you really like. You cannot exactly explain what it is. It takes deep thought to figure it out. Anyway, there is also a physical attraction of some sort. You get those feelings that you like what that person is like and want to be with them. That's when you fall in love. Self control can rarely help. It only goes as far as stopping yourself from actually doing anything with that person if you shouldn't be.
2007-01-26 11:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dido 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a wonderful question probably because I have been in that situation. Self control does not come into it. You let your heart take over and you are totally consumed by the moment. It does not happen very often and it's wonderful and very rarely is it the wrong decision, just go for it and enjoy.
2007-01-26 11:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fatal attraction or perfect love?
A very fine line.
The key is do they love you or are they manipulating you?
Sometimes you need other people to tell you the truth.
You can control the emotions we associate with the 'heart' this is adrenalin.
Once you have calmed down you can use your common sense.
Is this a good relationship or a bad one? etc.
Your own question implies as much, you are clearly thinking that the juxtaposition between how you feel when in a certain someones company and when you are not is 'unhealthy' for whatever reason.
So when you are not with them you question your feelings as they are transient.
If you have the same feelings when you are miles away then perhaps it is love, but is it reciprocated? or inappropriate?
2007-02-02 09:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by noeusuperstate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have the strangest feelings for people just by looking and getting eye contact messages and mostly it is love and there is nothing wrong with this as it is a natural thing as all animals do this. I dont believe that we can change this or even want to try. Treat it as part of life and human contact also it is a way of saying im listening.
2007-01-31 20:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by SAMANTHA H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
frequently the eyes are the window to the soul as they are asserting! at situations some people turn their eyes away via fact they experience uncomfortable for a seek into their soul, they improve a guard to sidestep others from looking deep down, different situations you may rather tell on the look which you get and that i even have self belief that it is the time to sidestep further soul looking via fact what you're searching for for is now on the exterior, and that i fairly no longer get to be attentive to that man or woman. now and lower back you meet somebody with a type look an you may think of that the gentle and heat temperature of their souls rather shines trough the residing house windows to the soul!
2016-09-28 01:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by heusel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the difference between love and lust, maybe? To desire someone does not mean that you should spend the rest of your life with them. I say, let your heart rule, have a bit of fun, listening to the head can bring you back to earth with a bump, but enjoy life. As long as your not hurting anyone else of course
2007-01-31 19:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you look back at yourself in the past you see something different to what you experienced at the time. People change, except in photographs.
Photographs capture a passing moment, from which you can see what was. It is no longer the same, but the moment still existed in time.
When you look into the eyes of a person who once was something, and is now nothing, you no longer have such feelings.
2007-01-26 20:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by James 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that means you have found what you have been looking for even if you don't know it yet.I think your head can't over rule your heart when it comes to love.Maybe the first time you fell for this person you said you got over them (usually not true) and you should try it again.Most likely this person feels the same Way.Hoped i helped.
Sam
2007-02-03 07:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋