He tells me he loves me whenever he is not mad but as soon as he gets mad at me the first thing he always says is why dont you just leave me alone for good and get out. I love him a lot and at times i feel very hurt.
2007-01-26 11:42:27 · 41 answers · asked by Always Lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for sure.leave and don't go back for that emotional abuse.if you go back,you are just enabling him.he will keep doing that to you.
2007-01-26 11:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by WHAT 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let me answer your question by asking another: Do you tell people you love to leave you when get mad?
If you don't do it to him and it hurts you, and you've asked him not to do it. Then I'd suggest you run a three strikes rule for your own well being, first time he does it you tell him not to because it hurts you. Second time he does it you tell him that you can't stay somewhere where the person who says they love you keeps hurting you, and ask him not to do it. The third time he does it, you leave and don't go back. That time, he has shown that he doesn't respect you or love you.
What you might want to find out is, if people have left him before in his life and this is what he is scared of when he gets mad, if not then, why does he say it? Also what is he getting mad at? How often is he getting mad?
Dr Phil says 'If you are with someone, you should be happy together at least 80% of the time" if you're not, then you are just pushing each others buttons...
I hope this helps.
2007-01-26 11:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by annita p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to what he is saying: He loves you but not enough to work on the relationship. He would prefer to kick you out than address the problem like a man and work on the problem. If you are willing to continue this way for the rest of your life, or leave one time and instead of asking you back he invites someone else in. Then stay and deal.
Or you could be the adult, prepare to leave adn stay away. The next time there is an arguement, you walk out before he can say his famous line. Tell him to call when he grows up.
2007-01-26 11:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by itchianna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be the doormat because that is how he's treating you! And you are teaching him that it's ok. What a shame. If a guy did that to me, I'd be gone yesterday and he would not have a chance with me! I am too good, worth too much and not willing to let any man treat me bad! Turn around and don't look back - and get some self confidence!!
2007-01-26 11:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Forever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave if I were you and never come back!! Don't you feel discarded and used when he does that to you? You need some PRIDE. Don't you feel like a piece of garbage when he does that? Don't take this crap any longer or he or anyone else can treat you like this!!! Stand up and Say NO MORE!!!! Close that door, move on to find a kinder, gentler boy friend
2007-01-26 11:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack your things and leave. Any man that gets mad and want to put you out is a waste of time. Let him go and he will realize the mistake he has made.
2007-01-26 12:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by lilbit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what if you really want to get through him you should leave even temporarly because he obviously feel like hes got the upper hand here thats why he keeps doing that so show him that you dont need him and leave he'll realize that if he really loves you he wont let you or wont want you too go so nex time just be like alrigh get your stuff and leave if you mean anything to him he wont let you walk out without giving you an apology or something and if he does it that just shows you thst its not woth it even if it hurts you staying in an unbalanced relationship isint healthy
2007-01-26 11:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to put up with that, love or no love, next time he kicks you out, leave and don't come back and see if he comes looking for you????? But I would have left with the first time I got kicked out, see ya,,,i can do better.
2007-01-26 11:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! What are you still doing in there. Your just letting him hurt you. You may love him but it doesn't seem like true love. Move on there might be someone out there for you who won't kick you out. Don't hesitate and don't waste anymore time. Trust me the sooner you get out the better. Don't be afraid just go. Unless you like being mistreated and belittled. I wish you the best.
Peace & Love
2007-01-26 11:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if he feels cramped or doesn't want you to be in his apartment, he needs to find a better way of letting you know than throwing you out. This kind of behaviour is called abuse - leave while you can! Next time he throws you out - don't go back!
2007-01-26 12:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by catcrazy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay? It doesn't make any sense. Men tell women things that they like when they want something! If you keep running back, you will seem desperate! If he really love you, he would try to make things work out. Trust me, that can make you really hurt when it is finially over between you two. Better to leave early~
2007-01-26 11:57:49 · answer #11 · answered by PRiNcEsSmO999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋