Teenagers??

Question

Okay I have a brother that is the youngest and he is 14. I am 18 and my older brother is 21. The youngest is out of control. He has ADHA, and is in trouble with the law. None of us live at home expect when we come home from colloge and we hang out with him when ever we can. He is part of a ganag at school and has a 9 mm. My parents tried everything but nothing has worked. He went to bott camp and that just made hime worse. He is n=in trouble with the law. We even tried to shock him with bring him to a jail for the weekend and that just changed him to not get in trouble tith the law. Does any one have any ideas to help all of us out.

Okay......................please look in the Law part. I put it up in there 2. There is more info to this.

Answer 1

First of all, GET RID OF THE GUN. . . PERIOD. Second, put him in Teen Challenge or a tough love program. . . get him in a place that can help him or he will become a statistic (and I don't mean a good one). This calls for TOUGH action. . . no pussyfooting here.

Answer 2

Well, a boot camp for a person with ADHD would certainly not have been my first choice if I was looking for a positive attitude adjustment, but as thats in the past, I have to let that rest. If they are seriously considering a lock-down camp, they are going to have to find one that can chain the person to a bed or a post and has the capacity to give enough sedative that they will likely knock the person out, literally, because the person with ADHD has a constant need for some kind of action.

A person with ADHD has many problems to deal with, both socially and professionally. One thing a person with ADHD is prone to do is to make very fast and decisive decisions which are not necessarily in their best interest. They may be the dream of every retailer because if they see something and decide they want it, they are going to obsess about it until they either buy it, have it given to them as a gift, or (if they are inclined as some are) steal it.

That being said, if there are constructive activities that such a person can engage in which they enjoy, whatever those be, these should be encouraged. People with ADHD can devote quite long periods of time on topics of interest to them. Perhaps a volunteer position might be good for him too. At 14, he is probably too young to be legally hired to work somewhere, so a volunteer position, particularly focussing around a topic which he is already interested in, would likely be a great way to help control some of his anger.

There are lots of resources available online about ADHD. If you read over some of them, you'll get a fairly good sense as to the type of person he is, and you'll also gain, I hope, a much better understanding of ADHD as a whole.

Answer 3

If nothing seems to be working for your mom and dad then and he's still under 18. I think you might want to talk to them about putting him in Military school that just might help him out in the long run before he dose get caught in with the wrong gang and gets his life taken away from him. I know that seems a little harsh but for you and your parents sake I think you would rather see him do something good with his life than fall down the wrong path.

Well, I hope this helps you and I hope all works out for your brother and your family.

Answer 4

Counseling would help? Just a suggestion. I need a counselor cuz I have trouble with my teenager. Im ready to kick him out thats just a feeling.

Answer 5

Send him away to the worst possible place for a little while, so he will see how harsh it is and if he keeps acting up, he will stay there till he changes. Whatever.

- Bride

Answer 6

Tell him the cosequenses of being a bad dude. If he doesn't listen, try pushing him around like you're his friend.