Recently someone lied to me right to my face! She now knows i know she was lying...i now feel i can't trust her again but then i'll prabably forget about it and trust her again. Should i get over it because life is too short, or let her know i can't trust her and always be weary of her?
Even after it was all out in the open, she still told me a few more lies!
2007-01-26 11:21:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are right to feel cautious about trusting her again, if she wants to remain close to you she has to regain your trust by being total honest from now on, it willl take time but she has to understand she has to do the work not you, and if you find her being dishonest again you should really have a good think about your future together
2007-01-27 03:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lied to someones face and yes it was to hide something and get myself out of trouble but it backfired: not because they found out from someone else but because I faced up to it and told the truth due to the fact that i could not live with the sahme of it all and I couldnt completely remember what the lie was and thought I could get caught out which would be horrible. When I told them I had lied and apologised I said at the time that I would completely understand if they could never trust me again but they were more thankful that I had owned up to it albeit if they were a bit peed off that i had lied in the first place.
Since then I have made sure that I have rebuilt my trust and I have stuck by it because I could not live through the shame again. I am aware that this is a personal experience and not everyone is the same but if I can gain someones trust again by being given a second chance then surely everybody has that right too?
Obviously we dont know what the lie was or the circumstances that surround it but having been through the shame of it all I am grateful I was given the second chance and to be honest I am happier with myself having been through it.
At the end of the day it is purely down to you and whether you think she will lie to you again. I know there will be people out there who will say dont give them another chance and liars are scum and all that but I dont know ANYBODY who has not at some point told a lie for whatever reason and whether it is a little white lie or a massive dark one!!!!!
I hope you find the right decision within yourself and that whatever people have written here has helped you make a clear opinion of what you should do. If I was you I would face her outright and confront her and tell her there and then that you will not tolerate another lie.
All the best to you
2007-01-26 12:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I could not ever trust that person again. Especially after having told more lies.
2007-01-27 05:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personnally after I am lied too, I would have a strong apprehension to trust that person again, If someone lies it is either to keep themself out of trouble or hide something that they do not wish you to know. Either or it is untrust worthy and I would keep a guard up with that individual regardless.
2007-01-26 11:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by seaking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that is earned.
Once or twice you can forgive but after that it is up to you.
Try to understand why you want to be around someone that perpetually lies and then make a decision to do something about it.
Forgiven but not forgotten , be careful .
2007-01-26 20:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Netty13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to think through why she lied to you. It could be that she wanted to spare you pain or avoid you getting angry with her. In that case you can still be friends, but you need to tell her that you would rather she feels able to be honest with you. Or it could be that she is a fantasist who can't help telling half truths. In which case, you can keep her as one of your friends but take what she says with a pinch of salt.
If she is lying to manipulate you or because she does not care what you think then she is no friend to you and you should move on, you will be better off without her.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 12:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite simply, if she lied to you and you know for certain its a lie, she cant be trusted, full stop. you will have to be very cautious with her from now on. she knows what she did, so confronting her will only make her do the same thing. just handle with care from now on, or put up with being lied to all the time, its your choice.
2007-01-26 11:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by wolf man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be able to trust again unless she earned it. It sounds like she has a problem with telling the truth, that's not good. If you need to tell her things or ask, don't expect the Truth.
2007-01-28 12:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are sufficiently silly not to learn a lesson. Most women are liars. Never trust any of them with a secret.
2007-01-30 09:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by natureboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD NEVER TRUST SOMEONE THAT LIES TO MY FACE.
AND YES LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT FOR YOU TO WORRY ABOUT PEOPLE LIKE THAT, PUT HER ASIDE AND GO FORWARD WITH YOUR LIFE.
PS: I KNOW WHAT YOUR SAYING, I HAVE ONE OF THOSE IN OUR OFFICE AND SHE THINKS PEOPLE ARE JUST PLAIN STUPID. SHE LIES TO MUCH AND BELIEVE HER LIES EVEN THOUGH SOME OF US HAVE TOLD HER TO STOP TALKING BUT SHE IS THAT WAY AND NO ONE CAN CHANGE HER. SO WHAT WE DO IS PUT HER ASIDE AND CONTINUE WITH OUR LIVES.
2007-01-26 11:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋