i ask my spouse ;;;;;;;;;why is it ok for me to feel that you dont care about me ?
but you say that you do?can some one in here tell me what is really going on..........or something im sick of crying .i love my spouse deeply.
2007-01-26 11:18:24 · 7 answers · asked by nobodyspeical00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Might be your intiuition trying to get you to open your eyes to something that may be going on. Don't ask him in terms of Why is it okay for you to feel...he doesnt know how you feel nor should he be in control of your feelings. You need to ask yourself why you need to be happy based on his reaction to you.
Talk to him about how you feel in an open conversation rather than pointing fingers. It usually works, they are married to you and want you to be happy.
2007-01-26 11:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not feeling the love and caring, then you need to sit down and talk about it, without crying (I know that's hard) or accusing.
Just tell your spouse what is making you feel that way, what's causing you to feel that you're not loved or cared for, because if you are in love, and hurting, something is wrong, you're feeling like something is missing, because love isn't supposed to hurt either of you.
Communicate, communicate, communicate, openly, honestly, without fighting or breaking down, express your feelings and be honest. If you do that, and you're still not getting what you need, then you need to think about counseling, so you can find out if you're just feeling anxious or insecure because you're depressed, or if you're spouse is just saying what you want to hear and not really hearing you, and you are really being neglected in your marriage.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 19:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling love generally has to happen within. Maybe you are looking for love to come in a certain package instead of accepting the way your spouse does love you. Try opening your ideas and letting go of ideals of how love should be and embrace your spouse and embrace yourself more. The love you are truly missing is the love that only you can give to yourself. Do not allow yourself to put your need for love only on your spouse. You have to love yourself and maintain your emotions, not even your spouse can do that for you.
2007-01-26 19:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, this is a great question!
People tend to try to make their spouse feel loved by doing what makes them feel loved. So, if you spouse feels loved when you, say make him a tuna sandwich, he may do a chore you've been wanting done.
But, if receiving a sweet note is what makes you feel loved, the chore, while nice, will not hit the mark.
Sit down and tell each other: What makes you feel loved? Be specific. Then you'll know just how to confirm your love to your spouse.
2007-01-26 19:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you tell him how you feel and he reassures you then you need to do things for you that make you feel worthwhile. You may have low self esteem or you may be right but by making yourself happy you will eiter realise yes he does care or no he\does not and have the strength to walk away.
2007-01-26 20:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by jupiter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that they don't care? Is it something they did or said to make you so sad?
2007-01-26 19:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. You are being really needy. He said he cares about you, so get over being insecure and accept it.
2007-01-26 19:25:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋