Marriage up in Air?

Question

Hi there. I was married Sept 21, 06. Husband's lawyer trying to declare it null and void. According to my lawyer...we are very married in EVERY state. Now, both his ex wives have chimed in as well as my ex husband....and all the ex's are filling the kids heads and ours with lies...I love my hubby and want the marriage to work...but we haven't spoken since New Years eve (he is stationed over seas.) There is a woman there claiming to be his 'friend' who phones and leaves threatening messages....it's all so high school...I just want my life back and for every one to leave us alone to work on our lives... Do I continue to fight for the marriage....or just let it go (he has cut all communication, stole all the $$, closed all the accounts, cx my and his step kid's insurance and lies to everyone about everything that has happened with us..even his chaplain....?) Feel free to IM me

Answer 1

I am not sure how old you are, but you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. If you can, anul this marriage or file for separation and get out of there without ever looking back. I don't know why you'd marry into this disaster, but get out quick and get on with living a happy life. He is going to wreck you if you let him. Take your kids and go. Don't even think about letting this fruit mess up your poor kids. Protect them and take care of you and know you are for sure doing the right thing.

Answer 2

If you want your marriage to work, you'll work hard on it and not give up so easily. Who cares if he's cut off all communication, closed your accounts and whatever. Mine did the same thing and now we're back together. He is doing all this account closing and not answering his phone because he is trying to convince himself that this is what he wants and thinks that this is what he has to do. He'll eventually let reality sink in and it'll come and bite him in the as$. Don't call him, let him call you and I can guarantee he will if he has to wonder why you haven't been trying to communicate with him. Let him be for now.

Answer 3

ok, he has two ex wives, and you have an ex husband ?

They are all involved in this and both of you are allowing it?

Too many ex's and seemingly children from these failed unions.
If you have no children together, allow this mess to fade away with divorce papers.

If you have children together, you will have to wait until your husband is stateside and the military will order counseling for you both, without the outside inf;uence of others , hopefully anyway. Both of you will need to do some serious growing up and depend on each other instead of others and their opinions of your marriage. Hopefully with an objective counseling staff, this could be obtained.

Answer 4

Think carefully about what you can LEARN from this situation. You haven't even been married five months! Obviously this marriage was wrong before it even began. If your husband isn't willing to try to work it out, then there's not much else you can do, huh?

Answer 5

First of all, the fact that he has already had TWO divorces should have told you something.

Sooooo, what you have now is a man who lies, cheats, and steals. If you don't want to protect yourself from him, you could at least save your prospective children from having him as a father.

Answer 6

Doesn't really sound like there is anything to hold on to. He's moved on. It's time for you to do the same. Holding on will just hurt you more and give him power.

Answer 7

Girl, he does not want you, chalk it up to bad experience, and get on with your life. Don't look back.

Answer 8

you know what honey if he has done all that he is not worth your time or effort to work things out .. why would you want to ?

Answer 9

Move on.... looks like he doesnt want you and even took your money!!!

Answer 10

let him go.......he did......