I work with a very attractive lady who is married but seperated from her husband. I am in a fairly unhappy marriage. I cant leave my wife right now and wouldnt just to be with this girl. We took a business trip and had some drinks and made out a little. No sex. She has done this before to another guy and then went and told her husband because she thought he was cheating on her. It ruined this guys life and ultimantly had to leave his job. Which is what I am now doing. I have already told her that I do not want to talk to her anymore, but she does not seem to grasp that. She is also doing this same thing with another guy in out company, only in another city. I have never been in a situation like this and dont know what to do. I care for her and want to be with her and I know how stupid that sounds so you dont have to say that. No bullshit advice please. I am relying heavily on the answers I get.
2007-01-26 11:15:20 · 31 answers · asked by harleysNvettes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is this womens namd Tammy Dorsey? and do you work at eastman?...What a fool you are being. You are setting yourself up for sexual harrassment. You would even consider leaving your wife for a whore like that.....If you do you are a BIG time fool. Go home take your wife out for a nice super and LOVE her. Work on your marriage.....Take a BIG stick and slap yourself on the dick with it when you even think about this other women.....With a ***-dumpster like that you would need a body condom....
2007-02-02 08:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by txO3blueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason she's getting a divorce. She's done this before, as evidenced with your own answer. She's messed up her husband's life, a another co-workers from the past, you and now another co-worker. This lady is bad news. I'm glad you told her to stay away from you. I think your are going to have to keep telling her this. Be nice but firm while telling her this. I'm just afraid of her putting a sexual harassment suit against you. Remember the wrath of a woman scorned. Maybe tell her you are trying to get back with your wife, wheather you are or not. If you know this co-worker that's she's also hitting on, I would also warn him. I bet there are more "victims" of hers, you just don't know it. I'm also glad you're leaving this place of employment. The farther away, the better, and the sooner the better. Good luck.
2007-02-03 09:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude look if this woman has done this with so many co workers she is not gonna stop.
If you are unhappy in your marriage then you need to work on that marriage. a lot of time marriages go south just because you forget to hold hands on the couch or in the car. a little whisper in the ear try it you will see a big change. Reality is that is what you are looking for. There is nothing that says you can't flirt with your wife!
Think about it real hard.
2007-02-03 07:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's playing you, I'm female and have had a friend who did this to several guys at our place of buisness. My friend would tell me all about her new guy at least one a month but she never ditched the "old" guys. Feeling for her is inevitable, Shes pretty she made you feel good and right now it doesnt seem that your wife is on your side.
Take a break from the pretty girl at work, like tell her No. Hang up and except no further transmissions till you know where your marriage is. If she's worth a damn she will be waiting (not too long, so dont dilly dally) My guess is, that if you give it a week without talking to her and giving her attention she will have moved on.
2007-02-02 02:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Tell your spouse that you're a louse. Let her know all the dirty details and then tell her of your guilt and great love for her.
If you don't trust your spouse you really don't have much of a marriage. To conceal your misdeeds may seem easier now but the truth has a way of working itself out into the public. It is far better that you be a man and tell your wife face to face than have this co-worker do it for you and cost you the only opportunity that you will have to do your own fessen up. So get to it quickly.
2007-02-02 08:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by stupido#1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your wife? Why is your marriage not a happy one? If you wife has not done anything hurtful to you, why not get counseling. This girl at your office sounds like a bed traveler. She could harm you and before you know it you won't have her OR your wife. When she talks to you about anything other than work, ignore her. She's unhappy and wants to spread her unhappiness. Don't be blind sweetie. Men and women like that kind of attention, but in the end you and your family are the ones who get hurt. Stay far away if you can. She's a homewrecker. Attractive or not...STAY AWAY
2007-02-03 09:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Raven Beauty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you stuck between a rock and a HARD PLACE . Looks like to me your hard place is between your legs . If this woman is doing this to you and others what in the hell is your problem . I hope you use protection if you did or do anything with this slut oh sorry I mean woman so you don't give anything to your wife .
Did you tell your wife ? Don't tell me your one of the butt heads that really don't care what the better half thinks.
If you do get caught you deserve every hard feelings you get .Ask yourself is it worth it ? Is this fling worth it knowing that this woman,s doing this to other men .
I think you need to start thinking with your head and not your pecker.
Really you need to get out of it . So you made a mistake we all do . This is what you do. Tell your wife this weird woman at work keeps flirting with you that will perk up your wife's interest in you woman are funny that way. Make it seem like its all that woman's fault if the woman tells your wife you can say I told you so sweaty she,s nuts. Oh well that's the best I can think of . Good luck.
2007-01-31 13:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is a pusher man. She gives you a little taste to get you hooked, then all bets are off. And just like a pusher, you are not the only one who gets samples. Get your brain back in your head and get away from her. How would your wife feel if she found out? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Didn't your marriage say better or worse, think before you totally screw up.
2007-02-02 07:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she don't need to ruin your life, You've already done that. Be a man. If she willfully made someone life a living hell, why do you want to be with her?You will get what's coming to you. If you want to be hot pants, then you should give your WIFE the respect you give your floozy on the side, tell her you are done and you really want a woman that enjoy breaking up homes and so do you. Good Luck To You ( NOT! )
2007-02-03 09:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's going Thur your mind?! Don't you even care about your wife?! Even though you're NOT happy, respect her (wife) enough to tell her the truth, before you do anything else. Marriage is all about respect. Can you image what's gonna happen when she finds out? The hurt! the pain! the guilt! Don't put your wife Thur any heartache for some whore at work. And knowing that, are you that desperate to want to be with her.?! Shameful......
2007-02-03 07:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by qasizan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋