90% of men in their 30s and 40s tell me to NEVER GET MARRIED. i dont ever wanna end up in the boring suburban?

Question

lifestyle. what do u guys think: is staying single and dating but never marrying a better route?

Answer 1

If 90% tell you the same advice, then it must be true.

Being female, it has never occured to me that just maybe, marraige can be indeed very boring to the guys, since we are the ones who get excited about a new place, garden , weekend barbeques, maybe kids and school and their lives, the whole kit and kaboodle.

It is very sad to be unaware of this. A guy gets married for what? watching his wife pick the colors for his house, room, clothes, toilet seats, bed , plan his activities,job, and then he gets to work so that his salary goes to raising his kids etc.

What you are saying is that a man loses his own identity.
Thats is something to think about.

Answer 2

I think if you go to premarital counseling and iron out all the crap it took the rest of us ten years and a divorce to do prior to entering into a life-time contract, you could have the marriage of the century. If you find the one that you can't wake up without, then keep her and communicate and negotiate and remember to be friends. When you find a woman who feels like you feel and wants to have fun too, then think about marrying her. If she has diffent ideas, then don't. Life is only boring if you let it be. I think if you make your life happen instead of letting it happen to you, you can shape it the way you want it. You ask a good question--I look forward to hearing what the guys say.

Staying single has disadvantages and getting married has disadvantages. Like I said, if you do the work before hand and can communicate, negotiate, and think of someone besides yourself in your relationship, a marriage can be a beautiful thing. Being single can get old and lonely and lame. I am afraid there is no good answer to your question. It all really depends on you.

Answer 3

Boring suburban is not the main reason why many men are disappointed in marriage. Many married men are experiencing marital conflicts which often lead to divorce and all kinds of emotional and financial problems. And this is the main reason why they don't recommend marriage to others.

A bad marriage can ruin your life. And an awful lot of men are having bad marriages nowadays.

But staying single and dating all your life will mean that you will spend a lifetime of pursuing women for sex and love and perhaps you won't have much time for any other pursuits.

Perhaps it's best to choose a woman who is least likely to divorce you and marry her. And although it may be politically incorrect, the woman who believes and behaves according to traditional gender roles and stereotypes is the one who will try the most to keep her marriage going and avoid undue marital conflicts.

Choose a woman who has traditional beliefs about marriage and relationships, play your traditional male role according to her expectations, and you'll probably have a good marriage.

Answer 4

Some people were not meant to marry. Other people just need to find the right person. There are PLENTY of girls out there who do NOT desire a boring, suburban lifestyle -- find someone with similiar goals/interests/values, and you'll be fine! OR stay single, and that's okay, too!

Answer 5

I am in that age range you named off and I won't tell you not to get married, but not to get married to soon or young. Anything prior to age 28 is too soon.

The law says your an adult at 18; that may work when it is time to vote, but that's about it.

From age 18-27, there is so much out there to see and experience. Taking on a family can slow it down or eliminate it all together.

Get as much money, traveling, womanizing, free spending, toy buying, club-bin, etc out of your system while you are responsible for just YOU! When you take on a wife and kids, they game changes. Say you are single making $60.000 per year, if goes farther when all of it belongs to you. Get the wife and kids, now $60K spends like $20K. Marry her when its six figures or higher.

The information I am telling you applies to women as well. Middle age is not 40 anymore. Back when 30-40 was considered middle age, getting married and settling down was the thing to do, until our baby boomers became the center of attention and scientific guinnea pigs. Everything in our society is for them which will late be for us. Look at Viagra!

You said it was 90%, now it is 91%. Enjoy yourself for a while.

Answer 6

If you don't want children and don't care if anyone sticks by your side when bad things in life happen, then don't get married.

However, if you do want children or do want a "life partner" who will always have your back, then you should marry someone who is adventurous. There are women who don't like the boring suburban lifestyle either.

Answer 7

The single life would be great been married 16 years

Answer 8

For women, marriage is a business. If they hook up with the right guy, they have houses, cars, kids, clothes provided to them and all they have to do in return is spread their legs. So it's not about the 'boring' suburban lifestyle, it's really about keeping your life free from greedy scheming women who do NOT have your best interests at heart.

Answer 9

It's a better route for those who like that lifestyle but for
me I've been married for 20yrs and loving it.

Answer 10

Do you want to take a 50% chance to lose 50% of everything you have worked for? If yes, then get married, if no, then stay single until you want to have a child, and then GET A PRENUP.