the pain of loneliness?

Question

i live in a one bedroom flat by myself. working through psychiatric problems. im 29. ive never really had any friends. im close to my mum, i speak on the phone couple of times a day. because of the great deal of anxiety i have i dont go out anywhere. i dont own much cept this computer. when im alone here lonely everynight in my flat, my thoughts keep spinning around, i ponder and worry, will my life come together? will i meet friends a girlfriend? how long will i have to wait? the pain of loneliness is tremendous, especially when, you want a life, love and happiness. i feel so in desperate need of those things. i have a very low self esteem so that always ruins things, every girl or person i try to talk to, never works. they seem to pick up how i feel about myself and my life. and it fails. i keep wondering when will my life come together, when will i have friends and a life and achieve things? because of my low self esteem i look in the mirror an i dont like the way i look

i feel im aging, i look at the gap in my teeth, where i lost two bottom front teeth. and i think whos ever gonna want me? im savin up for implants. the way i feel right now, it seems as though my loneliness will last forever, and it will never change. my mum keeps saying take one day at a time. but its hard when, your lonely and it feels as though your missing out on life, and everybody else is happy

Answer 1

Do you have a webcam? Are there any games you play, chess, cards, dominoes, scrabble, etc? One way you might start meeting and connecting to others is to find some online game partners. Slowly this may help you break out of your shell and you would be able to chat a see the other person who maybe going through the same thing.

I know it's tough to be alone and you are probably struggling with depression, but try to look at something uplifting each day. the sky, the sunset, a flower. Do you have a cat or dog? If not, how about adopting one. If you connect with a pet, they will be your unconditional lifelong friend and it will get your mind thinking about the needs of that little creature that wants your care and love.

And perhaps try to find a support group that include many people going through the same thing

Just my 2$

Answer 2

I know how you feel i have somewhat of a mild condition that you have. But I won't go into that. For starters you need to cover your anxiety, you need to go to a theripist and talk about your feelings that will help there must be an underline cause for your feelings. Medication will help also. Friends...you can meet friends online if that is easier or get involved with something that is the best way to make friends i know you might but nervous or you might not feel like it but you will feel better. after you cover this anxiety things will be much easier and build your self esteem. you sound like you are a really nice and kind person just lonley and believe me your not alone. Friends are important and when you find the right ones they will bring you a lot of happiness. Don't sit and ponder!!! do something THINK POSITIVE!! you need to have self confidence you have a right to be here and be happy as anyone of us do it's your life just remember that. How long you will have to wait is up to you there is a lot of help and people out there but your the only one that can change it. Trust me if you have confidence and show that you are a strong person people will come to you!! don't let anyone take you down. u got a friend right here if you ever want to talk you can e-mail me at [e-mail].
Good luck!!

Answer 3

well first off reguardless of how it may look, nobody lifes perfect happy little lives. The things that differ us from eachother is how we deal with what we are given. I myself have problems with anxiety,although it is not as sever. however I make myself do things even if sometimes the thought of it makes me nervous or uncomfortable, sometimes thats what you have to do push yourself do get involved and be social. I understand that your feelings of self conciousness and anxiety are pretty deep and consuming, however you can always take small steps everyday do something that pushes you a little more out of your comfort zone. Also get involved in an activity that your interested in..maybe a book club, bike club, outdoor group? somethign like that where you can meet people who are interested in the same things as you..and if you don't have much like that your interested try something new. There is hope, and things will happen for you just like they happen for everyone else...we all have our moments, rest assured yours will come as long as you believe it will and put an effort in to change your life..also I don't know if you already have one but maybe you should try findidng someone professional to talk to a therapist or something. Get yourself out there and have fun! life is too short to waste it up in your flat...the first step is getting out, join the world! I wish you the best of luck and hope you find what your looking for...if you need someone to talk to feel free to email me.

Answer 4

I know you feel bad right now, I am sorry.

Just know that everybody has some personal traumas and bad times. Here is a trick tthat make you feel better. Look in the mirror and smile. I know it sounds goofy, but try it. There is eidence that using the muscles in your face that makes you smile is actually linked in improving mood.

Answer 5

Things will change if you continue to reach out, Questions - chatlines, or even one of these date lines. You will one day find someone to converse perhaps enter a relationship with there is always hope till the dirt is pill ed on.

Answer 6

Since you posted an almost identical sad story 23 hours ago (wich I answered directly) I'm now wondering if you aren't just a troll who likes to see people for sorry for him.

Try starting your own web site for that- something like pityparty.com .

Answer 7

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