As an adult you should know that sex really isn't all that important?

Question

Seriously, does anyone who is having sex on a regular basis really believe that it isn't all that important?

If I'm not complete on my own, then someone to share a bed with and to have sex with won't bring satisfaction or purpose or completeness to my life?

I thought sex was important until we lost our drive for sex?

I thought companionship and intimacy were part of Mazeltov's Needs hierarchy!

Do people who have someone really believe these things aren't important and as an adult I should know better?

Answer 1

You write with a fair amount of ambiguity but if your central premise is that sex isn't important to a relationship I would say that must vary from couple to couple. After financial difficulties nothing destroys relationships more often than sexual incompatibility, and its accompanying symptoms such as infidelity. If sex isn't a part of the life of a couple and both partners desire that to be the situation then all is well. If one feels differently then the relationship will collapse eventually. In other words to each their own.

Answer 2

First of all companionship and intimacy are about a lot more than just sex. It is possible to have sex without either of the other two. It's overrated as the answer to all of society's ills. My absolute favorite times with my husband are when he's just holding me. Seriously. I wouldn't mind not having sex but I couldn't stand it if he stopped holding me. I think he's the opposite. Sex certainly seems more important for men. I have read that while women feel the most intimacy with their partner by talking, men feel the most intimacy through the sexual act. That is when they feel closest to their partner.

Answer 3

As an adult, you should know that sex really IS that important for some people and not as much so for others. It depends.

And Maslov was just a man like any other. Just because he ID'd a certain number of needs doesn't mean his hierarchy is complete.

Answer 4

I got some news for you my friend. Sex is 80% of a relationship. As you get older, you will learn that having sex with one great partner is a lot better than having a herd of one night stands. I've been down both roads and in a one on one... you get to know your partner and she learns you. the likes, wants, when, how much, what turns her on, makes her organism and so on. This frees up both of your bed time and lets you have the time to explore and experiment thus, making love that much better thus bringing the both of you closer and closer, more intimate and enforcing your relationship, making it stronger and more loving as well as more trusting. I have a saying that has proven this but I can't say it on Question and Answers. but...when your outside raking leafs under the tree and what your really thinking is how nice it would be if you were under the tree receiving oral sex and your partner comes out and does just that without saying a word....your getting closer to a great marriage and happy sex life.

Answer 5

Mazeltov's LOL

It's quite important. After 10 years we still can't keep our hands off each other. It's not the most important aspect, but it's really high up there..

If you've lost your sex drive, maybe it's time to talk to a doctor?

Answer 6

Important when you ARE with someone, but you certainly don't put value on your life, based on whether you are alone or with someone.

There is 24 hours in a day..... Unless you are having sex all 24 hours...... I think it plays out to be the least important. If you have no intimacy without sex....then intimacy with sex..... is rather an empty relationship.

Answer 7

I think sex is a representation of devoting all of your attention, passion and self to pleasing someone else while allowing yourself to enjoy the moment without hinderances. This devotion is what I believe is important to humans because this is exactly what God wanted from people when they were created. Being married/devoted gives us a chance to understand the deep yearning and pleasure God has in each creation that is willing to receive and intermingle/accept Him/Her. Once the drive for literal sex goes away it is an opportunity to look for new ways that bring the joy and satisfaction for complete surrender to oneself, each other and God. So, no sex itself is not important but the Spiritual representation meant by having sex is a necessity for life. If you can accomplish what is represented by sex in your spiritual life without sex then you should walk that path because that is where you're being led.

Answer 8

sex is NOT important in a relationship. the concept of sex IS. the best part of sex is the intimacy and closeness. me and my wife like more the before and after because we are close, we cuddle, and we make the moment really special. we kiss, we hug, we talk, we caress each other and is easier to see that what we did was make love not sex and get it over with. i rather kiss my wife after i finish than turn around and go to sleep. intimacy and love is important in any relationship, SEX IS NOT!!! the pleasure is given by the heart and also the love. you can have sex and in the end you dont feel anything and that is when you aren't being honest with yourself and your feelings. sex is for lust love making is what truly counts.( i hate the word sex it makes it sound as a bad thing that is why i prefer love making. sex you do with anyone but giving yourself to that special some ONE is what matters the most. that is love.)

Answer 9

I had some intimacy problems and I cured myself. I began taking 2000mg of vit-E, 2400mg of omega-3, 1000mg of garlic, 1000 vit-C, a regular B complex with B-12, 600mg calcium + D, 237mg Magnesium with 10mg zinc and a multi vit with 5000iu of vit-A, 1.5mg thiamin (B-1), 1.7mg Riboflavin (B-2), 20mg niacin, 400mg folic acid, 10mg pantothenic acid, and 18mg iron daily and within 2 months i was "ON THE ROAD AGAIN". Seriously. If any male out there has this problem, try this. It works. You have a computer. Research it. When I began this regiment all : My friend" could do is watch me tie my shoes. Try it, you'll like it.

And in answer to your question, yes it is very important. I'm 51 and it fixed me right up.

Answer 10

I can't figure out, from the way you have written it, exactly what you think or which side you are on. I will tell you what I think, however, since you asked.

I find sex to be a way to express feelings and caring to a person to whom I have an emotional connection. It doesn't have to be love, for me. But it does mean that I respect and care for that person and is a way to express that as well as to further bond with the person I'm being sexual with.

The release is of little importance to me. It is what happens outside of that that matters. The sharing of body and soul with another person affirms me and makes me care more, but it does not complete me - I am already whole.

I am not in a committed relationship, as far as one that will end in marriage. I still find sex to be important, within limits, to the union and one of many ways I care for the person I'm involved with.