My g/f had a miscarriage 2 1/2 weeks ago at 12 weeks along. I have never gotten a women pregnant before and I was excited to become a dad. I was more attracted to her than ever and I looked at her as the most beautiful person in the world. When we first lost the baby I was in shock, then denial, and now she has stopped bleeding and is going to have her period again, so it is true. I want her to be pregnant again so bad, everywhere I look someone is pregnant and I see newborn children everywhere. Unfortunetly our relationship is not going forward at this time due to a mistake I made before she got pregnant. Everyday gets harder and harder, I just want her to be pregnant again and I want to have a chance to raise a family together. I love her more than anything and I just don't know where to go from here. What can I do to get over this. We still talk everyday and she came down to see me the other day. Do I just tell her I want her back and i want to try to have another baby?
2007-01-26 10:07:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Be open and honest with her. It sounds like there is some unresolved issues going on that need to be taken care of before you add a baby to the picture.
If you both want the same thing, then you will both put in the effort to make it work... you will have you baby if it's meant to be.
2007-01-26 10:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to here about your loss . I lost a baby six years ago on The 14th of this month so i know how that feels . I never wanted kids after that i also was 12 weeks when i had my miscarriage but now i have a 2month old little boy he was two months yesterday i never in my life thought i could love a child as much as i do Gabe don't give up talk to her and maybe u all will work things out life is too short to give up and I'm sure she still loves you just give it time and everything will work out for the best !
God bless and good luck!
2007-01-26 10:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not going to be pregnant all the time. After 9 months, your goddess-like views of your girlfriend/ex will dissipate and you will be left with the emotions you have now, not to mention a new lifeform to take care of. If you really love her and intend on being with her for the rest of your life, why don't you get back together, and be HONEST with one another. Patch up any wrong feelings. It can tak e time. For the love of God, do not rush to have another baby just because you are still feeling the high of becoming a daddy. It can be traumatizing to your future baby if you guys decide to split as soon as the pregnancy is done. Think it out, decide if you two truely want to spend the rest of your lives together, and maybe in the future try for a child again. Good luck, and I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-01-26 10:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by OhLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to set some time aside for a serious talk about what the two of you are going to do in your future. Take the time to be honest with her. It is important for the truth to come out at times like this. I mean you can tell her you want her back, but also be careful about telling her you want another baby. That can be scary because she just lost a baby. And you don't want her to think that is the only reason you want her. That can also be scary for her.
2007-01-26 10:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww you sound just like my boyfriend. We lost ours too. We were both devastated. He loves kids. I wanted to try again and he did too. Anyway I know what its like though. Everywhere I looked I saw pregnant woman and babies. I was so bitter I had even evil thoughts running through my head. But most likely she wants to try again too but she is not saying it. When you see her, tell her how beautiful she is to you and how ready you are to be a father and tell you to try again. I honestly believe she will want to. Most people I know who have lost one want to try again. I got pregnant again just 6 weeks later and here I am now at 13 weeks. Good luck and have sex 14 days after the first day of her period and the 2 days following.
ps- it gets better
2007-01-26 15:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only tell her how you feel but it may be to soon to try for another baby maybe you both need to grieve for the baby you have just lost first. I wish you well and hope everthing works out well for you.
2007-01-26 10:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by joanne i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to own up to what you did admit to her it was wrong and ask her how you can get her trust again. You will need to start from square one in the relationship, make her feel that you truely care for her. Then once you are on solid ground again then talk babies.
2007-01-26 10:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with the unresolved stuff first
DO not pressure her into another child until she is ready
Work on the trust first and then go from there
2007-01-26 10:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely tell her how you feel. It's the only way you can communicate openly and maybe she feels the same way. Good luck!
2007-01-26 10:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋