I'm still living at home as I can't afford to move out but I don't get on with my parents. They won't kick me out because they need me around, however, I know I do need to move out to get my independence. My career prospects are actually much better by staying where I am, or I can rely on my student loan and move to uni halls - but my prospects won't be as good in the end as my uni is in the middle of nowhere, therefore networking and opportunities there are far lower. Any advice appreciated.
2007-01-26 10:00:58 · 25 answers · asked by m l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You better learn how to "get on" with your family. It is going to be MUCH more difficult in the real world, so you might as well get some practice in now. You should be grateful that you have supportive parents, many children are not so fortunate,
2007-01-26 10:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find it very interesting that you say your parents haven't kicked you out...have you expected them to in order for you to feel like moving out?
You'll just have to put up with your parents another 3 or 4 years or however long it takes for you to finish school, get a job and finally afford to move out.
You could always rent an apartment with a few friends and share the rent and all the expenses, maybe you could afford that.
But if you like being on your own, not too many people around...your parent's place is probably the best to stay in and you'll just have to think..."until the day I get a job...then I'll be gone!"
Tough luck, we all went through that. Luckily, you're a guy and you can move out no problem...I had to live with my parents until the day I got married. Thankfully I did meet the man of my dreams and got married...and I didn't rush into marrying with just anyone. I was 23 when I got married.
2007-01-26 18:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Querida 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can't get on with them...It is something that you are doing wrong.
It's one thing to want to stay at home to keep your cost down, but another thing if you expect your parents to still support you fully. Someone has to pay the bills and it might be a case of you not making any efforts to contribute or even trying to keep their cost down. Try changing your ways a little..It will benefit all of you.
2007-01-29 06:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents deserve their own life , I f you can't stand the heat...... they love you stop bitching, Stay or go it's up to you but there is no-one in this world who will put up with you like your mum and dad, they don't even want you to be grateful, they only want you to get the best out of your life without having to completely give up their own. If you do go, don't burn your bridges. Good luck, give your mum a hug, she's just as unhappy as you. Try talking, not shouting or demanding. Yes I was a foul teenager. your mum and dad are your best friends,
2007-01-26 18:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by chewystuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is stay at home for a while longer, just until you finish uni. Isnt uni very expensnsive enough without adding to your financial situation further just because of a few little arguments with parents, it won't be forever!!
2007-01-26 18:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by vicki h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a selfish little **** who comes on here cringing and expects others to answer a silly question. You want to move out, but your career prospects are more favourable if you stay at home. What do you actually need to be told?
2007-01-26 18:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if i was you i would move out.
i would have loved to go to uni but im not clever enough. a couple of my friends who did go really regret not moving into student accomodation.
its easier to get a job if you are a uni student. and its even easier to get a job after you have your degree.
please move out you dont know what your missing. and your right about your independance you will learn so much about handling money ect if you move out and you will need to know that at some point in your life.
2007-01-26 18:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
put up a notice on campus stating you need to move on campus and does anyone need a room mate, you can place an ad in paper, check paper to see rooms for rent, or room for cleaning yard or what ever, look, call, make some connections on campus , nothing will happen until more people around you at work and in your classes knows you want to move.
2007-01-26 18:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a bummer but a lot of us have had to do it. Try getting them to understand that you are grown up and don' need a 10pm curfew etc but then don't push the boundaries. Telling mine about my studies helped as they didn't understand it and suddenly understood that I was grown up and living my own life. Was more of a lodger than a child living at home then.
2007-01-26 18:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by malejocelyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They've supported you all these years, as well as now, so I think you could put whatever effort it takes to get along with them.
In other words; do things their way.
It's the best way to get someone to stop hassling you anyway.
Once you move out and see how damn expensive it is to support yourself, you will appreciate what they've done for you.
If you're smart, you will learn this now, not later.
2007-01-26 18:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by dork 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋