I havn't been to a wedding for ages and I just wondered if that question, posed to the bride, was still used in wedding vowes today (God help us if it is)
2007-01-26 10:00:42 · 23 answers · asked by samootch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry but there is NO WAY on this earth that I am going to OBEY my husband like a dog. I expected much better answers to this question, what the hell is wrong with you people are you stuck back in the dark ages, for goodness sakes have some self respect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-26 10:18:59 · update #1
If you think that obey is meant to mean something different to that which I refer, then you are living in fairy land with the little pixies and things.
2007-01-26 10:30:23 · update #2
Some people want obey to be a part of their vows. It is now an option. Usually the one officiating will ask the couple if they want it in or out. When we got married my ex at first wanted it left in, I said if it was there would be no wedding. Notice I said EX...obviously we DID get married (no "obey" was not in the vows)
2007-01-26 10:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your clergy if you plan to marry in a church or synagogue. I'm sure someone would be willing to explain to you, as your knowledge of wedding vows, by your own admission, is very limited. Learn what "according to God's holy ordinance" means in relation to the vows. If you haven't been to a wedding and aren't married or refused to include obey in your vows, why do you presume to know so much about it?
A few decades ago, the word "obey" was removed from wedding vows. Instead we promised to love, honor and cherish each other. Many years later, Jesuit philosopher John Kavanaugh, S.J. lamented how much we had lost by dropping the word “obey” from wedding vows. He said that the root of the word “obey” simply means to put the needs of another ahead of our own.
Obedience in this context has nothing about one dominating another - only two people pledging to put the needs of the other ahead of their own.
2007-01-26 10:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Shonuf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you get married in a church if you don't even care to understand the meaning of the vows? Obey doesn't mean being a slave. No wonder there are so many divorces- people are so picky about a word they don't even understand, and say vows they have no intention of following. My vows said I will love, honor, cherish and obey you always.
OBEY doesn't make me his slave.
God help you indeed.
No one is stuck in the middle ages- you're ignorant about the meaning of the word and don't understand. Haven't you studied languages or anything???? You seriously think OBEY means to act like a dog? LOL that's hilarious! Hello, Clueless.
2007-01-26 10:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-01 09:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by gennusa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure but I think it is less common then what it used to be... I feel it should be to love honor and respect Not love honor and obey!!! The Bible does not command us to obey it commands us to submit unto our own husbands that means be in subjection too and the Bible also commands the husband to love cherish and care for us as he does his own body. OBEY Is not a command in the bible by the way... I wish people would get it straight... Women are not to be door mats either.
2007-01-26 10:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my wedding, 20 years ago, the vows said "love, honor and cherish". I would never, ever say "obey" in my wedding vows. Thankfully, times have changed.
2007-01-26 10:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not in Presbyterian ones, haven't used that word in more than forty years. They do not "give away" the bride either, the roots of that have to do with arranged marriages, and they are against that.
2007-01-26 10:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're confused about the Biblical meaning of the word "obey".
Obey comes from the Latin audire which means, "to hear." It's not about being subservient - it is to do with trust and listening.
So if you have a problem with a wife promising to love, honor and listen to/trust the man you marry, yikes!
2007-01-26 10:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
We said it my wedding in 2005, but I live in a small town in the south, and I guess you could say I'm traditional
2007-01-26 10:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Misty H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it should still be for both bride and bridegroom. people dont take the vows seriously, that's why there are so many divorces.
2007-01-26 10:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋