If my husband always tells me that I'm beautiful, and that he doesn't ever look at other women to lust after them, and that he would never look at a dirty magazine; but then while I'm walking right beside him, he stares at a some calendars with beautiful, well-built women, half dressed. Why would he do that to me? I looked at him and he said "What did I linger too long?"
2007-01-26 09:39:18 · 8 answers · asked by Angel L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Knowing this sounds like a cliche, but maybe he's comparing those photos in the calendar to what he has...you! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? Is it offensive if you go to an art museum and see Renaissance art with barely clothed women? Sure these are art, I agree. With the ones you saw, maybe not so much as art. The question here lends itself to trust. Do you trust him to be true to you and his word? If so don't worry so much, he has never purchased these magazines, or other things, he has never strayed away from you, and he has constantly provided reassurances to you. Be proud that he does, not upset for the momentary glance at this type of objectionable material. Best wishes and good luck.
2007-01-26 11:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Gary M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why he is saying things like that. Every man likes looking at beautiful women, and every woman should know that. However, you should also know that this does not mean he loves you less and wants to find somebody better looking. To my eyes, women are also like "pieces of art". Just as it is satisfying to listen to good ear-licking music, read a good book or enjoy a tasty meal, looking at beautiful women gives me the same kind of satisfaction. There is nothing wrong with this, and it does not mean that he is only interested in the looks. If you know he is going to remain faithful, why should it be a problem to look at beautiful women? I wouldn't look at magazines with nice girls in front of my girlfriend, because that would make both her and me feel uncomfortable, but I wouldn't tell her I don't look at women or "check them out" with my eyes. If that is as far as I go, there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-26 17:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by harakiri 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is completely normal guys are very visual when it comes to everything he is just dreaming but you are the one that has his heart stop being so paranoid another thing he is trying to be funny. Guys will look at women for life it does not mean we want to be with them we have already the one women that makes us happy so really you HAVE NEVER LOOKED AT A BUFF GUY A LITTLE MORE THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE. If you are happy that is all the matters do not start a argument over dumb crap it is just added stress.
2007-01-26 17:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose you went blind right after the wedding. I admit I can be a bit insulted if my husband stares a bit too long at another female when I'm with him, but I also realize he loves me and only me. I'm not threatened it anymore. I have to admit, I have probably stared a bit too long on occasion too. Sometimes people just strike something in you and you can't turn your head away.
2007-01-26 17:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personal, every man is going to look at beautiful women. You yourself seed the women were beautiful, it's ok for you both to look. I bet if you ask most women they look at other men too. My wife sure looks, I would think somethings wrong if she didn't
2007-01-26 18:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows it bothers you, it most times becomes a tool for a Man to have fun with this at your expense. Teasing and inviting you to say something against it. I did this with my Wife several times until she used reverse psychology on me, and joined in. Now, she agrees with me when I peak at another Lady, and she now teases me, as though she is attracted to her. I have learned to keep my eyes upon my own, and my attention on her beauty as she is the prettiest ever. After all, Women have become more likely to cheat on there Husbands now than ever, and usually, not with another man! GL.
2007-01-26 18:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tired of Users 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you do not want your husband to lust after other women. But, if you are upset over that one incident, you have insecurity issues.
Obviously, you don't trust your husband. So, if he cheats on you, don't say he betrayed your trust because he does not have your trust. If he does not have your trust, what's the point of being faithful to you? Ponder that for a while....
2007-01-26 17:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with him or you to admire a photo a car or a person doesn't mean you are shopping.
2007-01-26 18:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋