Today was the best day for me...and yet the most confusing. I have chosen to go to Bloomsburg University Located in PA in the fall of 2007. I went up there with my boyfriend today...we live about 6 hours away we left early this morning drove up there i payed and everything is done! I'm so excited...but...i don't feel my boyfriend is. When we went up there he kind-of "complained" he said that it was taking to long and wasting his day. he then said that bloomsburg in his opinion wasn't the type of college he would attend. When i finally made my decision and payed and registered and knew that i was 100% positive that i was going there he became REALLY QUIET....he didn't say much the whole car ride home. The only thing he did say was how he had planned to go to a local college near our house for his first year then transfer. When we got home he hugged me said congratulation's and then left...
why is he acting this way? he should be happy for me! He complained today it made me feel bad..
2007-01-26 09:25:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well it is a far drive from your college to his. He is sad because he knows you two will be far apart, even thought you will try to make it work.... it probably wont. Sorry, but college life will throw things at you , that you don't expect.
2007-01-26 09:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, going away to college is all about you and has nothing to do with a high school boyfriend. Any young woman who alters her college plans for a boyfriend isn't smart enough to deserve college!
Your boyfriend is pouting 'cause he's thinking about himself. He's not mature enough or selfless enough to give you what you need right now. Just talk to friends about college that will support you and share the excitement with you.
Congratulations! Have a great time next year.
2007-01-26 17:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he is jealous to the extreme and don't know how to keep that from boiling over. he probably is excited for you but worried at the same time. how long have you been together? that may determine if you two are going to stay together. it is very hard to maintain a long distance relationship and as young as you are it may be wise to disconnect from him now rather than get to school and find you may like other guys and vise versa for him. he may find he likes other girls cause your not there for him. you both need to have a grown up conversation and act on your love if there is love and move on if there is not enough love to keep going. good luck with this and please do well in school. keep it real!!!!
2007-01-26 17:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that you are going to be there at least the first year by yourself and there's about a 95% chance that he's going to lose you that first year. It takes one hell of a committed couple to withstand a whole year apart without drifting. At the very least he's going to not see you for long periods of time when he's so used to seeing you all the time.
2007-01-26 17:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart he is doing the best he can.He doesn't want u 6 hours away from him. I think he did really well considering how alot of others guys reactions are alot worse. He was man enough to congratulate u. Even though he didn't want to. You have a good one so don't lose him.
2007-01-26 17:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change can be scary... is he going to college with you or is he staying behind? If he is staying behind, he is may worried about you growing apart not to mention the long distance thing.
If he is going to the same college it could just be nerves about all of that change.
2007-01-26 17:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by aaking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are beginning college it might be time to move on, especially if your boyfriend is not receptive to your goals. You will meet plenty of new people (& guys!) in college, not to mention you will grow a lot. I would try not to stress about it.
2007-01-26 17:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by senorita_carlita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice: Let it go now long distance relationships will soon come to a boil.
2007-01-26 17:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by trina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's sad that ur leaving. Talk 2 him about it. Tell him u will call him everyday, e-mail him. And see him on the weekends (If he is sad that ur moving anyway) If its not that, talk.
2007-01-26 17:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by CurlsWithBrains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe hez just sad that u will go away and won't be with him or sumthing...talk to him...maybe hez just sad hez going to miss u and ofcourse if he said he doesn't like it then he mite like not like it litterally that university or sumthing but he shud respect ur decision to go there.
2007-01-26 17:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Legant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋