2007-01-26 09:13:27 · 16 answers · asked by stevan09@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need time away from her to think. Space is a good thing, b/c you are running on emotion. You need to figure out what is good for you. In your time alone you might say I'm done, or you are ready to forgive. It will also depend on what she does as well in your time alone. Will she do things to make it right? Fight for you? or will she rather avoid the issue? You will know in time, you don't see that yet. But what's hard is that will you be able to ever trust her again? If you guys get back together you have to start on a clean slate. It will be hard, but if not you get a free pass to mess around with other girls. Be selfish and think about yourself just like she did.
2007-01-26 12:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love her and still want to be with her, then get over it.
If you can't get over it, then end the relationship and move on. Yeah, it will suck until you find another woman willing to have sex with you, but as it is it doesn't sound so great.
I'd say get over it. She's still around by your choice. What's the big deal anyway? So what if some other guys di ck was in her mouth and p ussy. I'm sure someone was there before you were and someone will be there after you. It's just sex.
Did she do anything for or with him that she won't do for or with you? If so then she needs a good talking to 'cause that ain't right.
Get over it or move on.
2007-01-26 17:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind. It's a difficult decision but you can't punish her forever by keeping yourself indecisive, which is what you're doing. You both deserve better than that. So make up your mind, forgive and let it go, put it in the past where it belongs, OR let her go. Only you can decide if it's worth it or not, but you can't keep hanging on to this issue and expect to have a decent and satisfying relationship.
2007-01-26 17:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you must have some strong feelings for the girl. Time has gone by, and you are still thinking about her... so do you want to be in a relationship with her, or is this just a phase? You gotta realize she hurt you, and cheated... and YOU deserve better. Move on!
2007-01-26 17:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She didn't have an "affair." YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. All she did was screw another guy. You have two choices:
1 - Get over it.
2 - Get out of it.
2007-01-26 17:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get over it, you cannot continue. It's as simple as that.
You are perfectly within your right to either get over it or not, but you have a decision to make. And you need to be honest before moving forward with anything.
2007-01-26 17:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all depends on her willingness to show remorse and be sorry, and admit it to u, if not there is really no way to get past it. if u can't get over it than it's best to tell her and move on, as it isn't fair to either of u to be in a relationship like this. if u love her u may see if she would be willing to go to counseling, if she isn't willing than she isn't really serious about wanting to save the relationship. but if u can't get past it, u have to ask yourself would u really be happier with or without her. than go from there.
2007-01-26 17:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer will depend on her reason for the affair. Have you forgiven her? Has she earned your trust back? Is she trustworthy? Remember, people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. I wish you peace and happiness in your future.
2007-01-26 17:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said yourself that you still love her. So if you love her (and if she still loves you) forgive her and move on. There's no use bringing old wounds into your everyday life. That way, your life will just be miserable.
2007-01-26 17:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you cant get overthe fact that some other man got your girlfriends pusssy all wet and made her ***, he probably had his tongue all in her vagina and she certainly had her mouth wrapped around his *** drippingg ****...and you cant get over it>.....Uh...HELOO.....DONT.
Just rid yourself of her, she cheated on you so what if it was 3 years ago, your an idiot for staying with her and she has NO respect for you.
Move on you CAN DO better.
2007-01-26 17:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋