Why would she want my husbands last name if she's the one who filed for the divorce?!
2007-01-26 09:05:23 · 27 answers · asked by MS.LACHEY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just hope his ex-wife is nothing like my ex-boyfriends ex-wife.....wanting to keep an attatchment and play head games. Myself I changed my name back to my maiden name the day my ex-husband got engaged to his now wife. Its her turn now and I have moved on and as far as my daughter she understands that mommy needs her own identity now. And 2 mrs. so and so's are too much...lol and she's good with that.
2007-01-26 09:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by sexandthecityaint got nothin!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were married a long time, her "married" name may the one she is known by in her profession. And if she has a good professional reputation in her industry, she may not want to change the name and thereby kind of lose the reputation associated with that name.
Or perhaps she just likes the name better than her maiden name.
Or perhaps, again if they were married for a long time, that name became an important part of her self-identity. Maybe it has been 10 or 15 or 20 years since she was "so-and-so maidenname," and and to go back to it doesn't feel right.
Did she and your husband have children together? Frequently divorced women will keep their ex-husband's last name because it allows them to continue to have the same last name as their children.
Or, maybe she's really never accepted the fact that they are divorced.
It could be for many reasons! Probably lots I haven't even thought of here!
However, I can tell you that if a woman doesn't think to do the name change during the actual divorce proceedings, to go back and do it later can be kind of a hassle with social security administration and yadda yadda.
2007-01-26 09:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by maxximumjoy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, she doesn't have to.
And the reasons she wouldn't want to include: if any of her assets were obtained with the married name, her credit history/rating, career and especially if they had children together. A name is a big deal, especially if she built a career or a reputation (hopefully good one) with his last name.
I'm about to start my second marriage, I'm actually keeping my ex's last name because it is the name of my children (I will not be having any additional children). My fiance and I have even disucced a hyphen'd name so I could have both.
It really doesn't matter if you don't like it or not. In fact, I can almost imagine that if you even TRY to make an issue of it, she'll NEVER change it.
2007-01-26 09:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Alot of New wifes are so jealous of the EX wife, but dont let this bother you.
Let it be...Ya know, Its alot of trouble to go thru to change your name. Ive been there and done that.Alot of times, if they had children together, It makes sense for the Mother of the children to keep the same name as her children, and alot do it, just because its a name...No big deal..
Its ok...Its just a name...My sister was divorced for over 10 yrs, and kept her ex's name until recently when she remarried, no biggie.
2007-01-26 09:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey listen,
For some it's an attachment to their children. Also, they've had that name a long time.
My mother married at 21. Divorced at 50. What would she be proving by going back to her maiden name? She had her husband's name practically her entire adult life. It's who she was. She would be distancing herself from her children (me and my brothers) and for what - to strike a blow at my father? Everyone knew her by that name what would be the point?
She married 7 years later again and took her new husbands name. I have no problem with that.
2007-01-26 09:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she filed for divorce she can decide whether to keep the last name or change it. If your husband initiated the proceedings then she would have had to have it changed a long time ago.
2007-01-26 09:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has children with that last name, maybe that's why. Otherwise, why does it matter? Maybe she doesn' t care, because it's just a name. Personally, I think there's way more important things to "stress" about. In the big picture of things, does it really matter if she has the same last name? So do a lot of people that were never married to him. Worry yourself about more important things than that, Hon.
2007-01-26 09:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it mater to you? In most cases women keep it because of the children if there are any, and it is also a pain to have to change your name back to the maiden name on documents such as SS, Drivers license and other important documentations...Who knows after you go through changing everything then someone will ask to marry them and there you go again changing everything once again......BIG PAIN......
2007-01-26 09:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women keep their married last name particularly if they had children. If she didn't change it at the time of the divorce expect to wait until she is remarried.
2007-01-26 09:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is under absolutely no obligation to change her name. I didn't when I was divorced. I kept my ex-husband's name because it was the same name as my children.
Why are you so insecure about this? You've been asking questions like this all day!
YOUR HUSBAND WAS MARRIED BEFORE!! HE HAS CHILDREN FROM THAT MARRIAGE!! YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO HAVE HIM ALL TO YOURSELF!! GET OVER IT OR GET OUT NOW BEFORE YOU CAUSE EVERYONE A WHOLE LOT OF TROUBLE!
2007-01-26 09:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋