What is a good rule of thumb?
2007-01-26 09:04:50 · 40 answers · asked by Confused78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
whenever YOU feel like YOU'RE ready!
2007-01-26 09:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by justcurious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wise to give yourself at least six months. You need time to make sure you are not getting into relationships on the re-bound or that you are not dating just to get back at the ex. I needed time to learn to be by myself again after 24 years with someone. I think you need to make sure you get to know yourself and that you are comfortable with who you are. You also need to step back to consider what you are looking for in a potential mate. I think it is also important to come to terms with what caused the divorce so the same mistakes aren't repeated. As far as a "rule of thumb" - there isn't any. I think everyone has to do what is comfortable for them.
Don't, however, wait too long! I have friends who have stayed single for so many years they no longer feel they can consider dating or remarrying.
2007-01-26 09:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say however long you were involved with that person...dating plus married, it takes at LEAST half that amount of time for you to completely get over them...so if you dated for 3 years and were married for 5, then that is 8 years you had together, which means it will probably take about 4 for you to COMPLETELY get over them. Being over someone means the sight or the thought of them doesn't have an adverse affect on you. I am not saying wait 4 years to date if you were involved for 8, but just keep that in mind..maybe take a full 6 months off and have some "me" time. IT is GREAT. Good luck!
2007-01-26 09:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by sklyles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule of thumb on this issue. I waited or just didn't have any interest for 4 years. Did a lot of emotional healing and repair during that time.
2007-01-26 09:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally didn't like to date someone after they are divorced for 2 years because I have found that they were not really ready any earlier.
They needed time for themselves and to sort out what they really wanted. The ones they dated immediately after was just for "trial", kind of a rebound type of thing, not necessarily what they did on purpose, just what usually happened. They were not really ready until about 2 years.
2007-01-26 09:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule of thumb... Do what you're comfortable with. I started dating weeks after separation and had no problem with that, some people prefer to wait. It depends on what you feel is right in your situation.
2007-01-26 09:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say wen u r sure u wont rush a relationship. After a divorce people r usually vulnerable. Make sure u keep ur grounds. Dont rush. Just go with the flo k? Take it easy. U will be ready wen u r ready.
2007-01-26 09:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by CurlsWithBrains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette doesn't come into these type of questions anymore. When your ready is a good rule of thumb to me.
2007-01-26 09:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you feel ready, however, there are some people that begin dating even before the divorce happens.
2007-01-26 09:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if there is an etiquette time. I think it depends on the circumstances, and also if your spouse lives near by to see this, or if there is also children involved.. Sorry I can't help more than this. I don't know the whole circumstances to really make a true statement.
2007-01-26 09:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are already dating before they even go to the divorce lawyer.
Like one guy said to me when I asked him about a gal that had recently got divorced, he said the best time to have asked her out was 6 months before she got divorced.
2007-01-26 09:15:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋