2007-01-26 08:55:40 · 52 answers · asked by Brittany D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
No. I'll be 19 in March and I want to marry my BF and have his babies. I've always thought I wanted a career but with him, I would love to be his wife and a mother to his children.
2007-01-26 09:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by tiapoquita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! why in the world do you want to get married and have a baby at 20 year of age? I'm 34, been married for three years and just had our first this past year. You are so young. The best years of my life, as a single person, occured when I was 24-26.
Your thoughts, opinions, values, and everything else about yourself will change several times over the next few years. You will be a different person.
With regards to a baby, ours is awsome, however I was talking to my wife just the other night of how the perfect birth control would be for a young single person to baby sit a new born for a week. You would quickly change your mind.
Life is short, enjoy it, live it. There will be plenty of time to get married and have babies.
If you get married at the age of 20, I can almost guarantee that it will end in divorce. Dont Do It!
2007-01-26 09:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by newname_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bad at all to want a baby.
to be honest different people do it different ways because of their own personal situation and personality etc. Every relationship is different and whoever said it will end in divorce had no right to say that!!! i know folk who have been together 35 years who got married at 20 and folk who got married at 30 and divorced 2 years later.
Myown experience - i got married at 26 - been married a year and 3 months so am now 28.
I really feel like i want to be pregnant in a big way - but at the same time i don't want to rush it.
As a primary school teacher, i already have a busy life and never seem to get enough time with my husband. Throwing a baby into the mix will totally change that again. We won't be able to go out when we want to - and since we have recently booked 7 outings for then next few months, i didn't even have to think twice. With a baby i would have to think again about that! I want to have a baby - but i don't want to do it until i have had chance to enjoy being carefree without having ties - i really want a cat but we haven't even got one yet because again it means we can't just up and spend a weekend away any time we want.
Our first year of marriage was action packed with honeymoon and purchasing a house after renting for 2 years. With that house comes a lot of responsibility. We have just spend over £2000 on a drive way being done so we don't have to park on the road. We also have to do up the garden and redecorate. ther is no way we could have afforded to do all those things with a baby on the way. We earn over £22000 a year each but we still find it hard to have the money for the things we want which does cause arguments. if you throw a baby into the mix, that makes it even harder.
As i said , each person is different but i am enjoying having time with my husband. Also the person i was at 20 is very different to who i am now - i went through college and trained aas a teacher - i had 4 carefree years there where i came and went as i pleased, then i met my future husband and we have been together over 4 years but i still want a bit more carefree time to spend with him so then i can give up work and dedicate my life to raising lovely kids.
good luck with whatever you decide, i am sure it will be right for you.
Have a fab paddy's day wedding! I had 25 members of my irish family at our wedding - if it had been paddy's day they would have loved it - double the reason to celebrate!!!
2007-01-26 22:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Not rushing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably not a lot of help but my wife and I married on 17 March 1979 and my wife was 20 at the time. We had our first daughter on 2 December 1980 and second on 17 January 1985. We look forward to our next anniversary in March and we are still happy together. My very best wishes if this is what you want.
2007-01-26 09:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Scitech05 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad at all. But I'd recommend getting married before trying to conceive...not for religious or social reasons, but just so you can be sure that you can handle life with your new hubby before throwing another person into the mix. Unless you're already living together, in which case you probably have a pretty good grasp on that. But if you conceived now, you'd probably have morning sickness in March, which would totally suck for your wedding and honeymoon. Plus, I don't know about you, but I was going to throw a theme park into my honeymoon (my man and I loooove roller coasters), and you can't ride any fun rides when you're pregnant. Some people would think that 20 is very young, but if you're emotionally and financially stable, that's more important than your actual age. Good luck!
2007-01-26 09:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband 12 years, married for nearly 8 i was married 3 months before my 19th birthday, and i had my 1st daughter a year and a half later, my 2nd 3 years after the 1st.
I am very very hapily married and my kids are the best thing ever.
I have not missed out on anything, i also have had no help from anyone other than my hubby as hes in the milityy and we dont live near my family, but i dont regret for one minute getting married or having my kids young.
Just to point ouy my daughter are very well behaved and bright and secure.
2007-01-27 01:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by hayles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle the marriage for a year or more and still want a baby so badly, then try for a baby. It would be a bad idea to bring another person into your family before you've even had a chance to be a family by yourselves. I would say get a puppy for now, they are a handful but will not put as much stress on a new marriage as a baby would! Best wishes & congratulations!
2007-01-26 09:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad that you want a baby SO bad but you really need to give your marriage a chance before adding a little one into the picture. A baby is a 24/7 responsibility which definitely takes away from the special alone times with your new husband. He may begin to feel resentful of the baby and find other areas to entertain himself!
2007-01-26 09:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Heck no :) It's natural, honey. I'm 21, and 12 weeks prego with our first. We've been married 1.5 years. Biologically, this is the best time to have children, and you obviously love your hubby-to-be, so it's a natural feeling, and nothing to be ashamed about. Hubby might want more time to be with YOU and only you for a while, so it's something you and he need to discuss (he might freak out if you tell him, but it's not b/c he doesn't love you). Money comes into it too, of course. But wanting to be the mother of your husband's children is never ever a bad thing. Your desire for a child indicates a normal, expected feeling that occurs when you marry the love of your life.
2007-01-26 09:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I just turned 20 and we wanted to start trying immediately, I am 24 now and unfortunately we haven't been able to conceive, if you a really think you are ready mentally, financially, and in your relationship, I would do it. Just remember if you do get pregnant right away, you won't have any alone time with your husband for 18 years, hehehe.
Good Luck! Pray about it and be very open with your husband!
2007-01-26 09:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by pre-k teacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not. everybody is different and may want children early, later in life or not at all. just realise that you can have a family and take some time to think about it. be sure that its what you really want, because once children come along everything changes. there is now someone small , helpless and very precious and no matter what the time is , how tired or poorly you may be, that child still needs you. at your age me and my wife were just starting a family, getting a home and building a life together. it was hard sometimes but rewarding most times. so , think about it. a family at a young age is not for everybody. i wish you every happiness , whatever you choose to do.
2007-01-26 12:14:59 · answer #11 · answered by dee jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋