hey i am 16 and im a somewaht confused about my sexuality. idk if im straight, bi, or gay. It been ruining me for the past three months and its made me very depressed. I was always straight till now and how girlfriends, crushes on girls and loved girls. I still like girls, find them attractive, and even masturbate to them. But sometimes idk if i like guys, i dont see whast so great about liking men, women are more attractive and have better features yet i still dont know. I have weeks where i feel straight and weeks when i dk. the weeks that idk I feel sad and depressed but when i feel straight i am joyous and happy as ever. When iget the straight feelings i laugh at the gay/ bi thoguth and dont even understand why i felt that way. My physcologist said i would know if i was gay and my mom has said that its a phase and my hormones are acting up. What do u think it is, i sure hope im straight b/c i loved it being sure before.
2007-01-26 08:27:05 · 8 answers · asked by george 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sorry for my spelling. my mom said its a phase and i hoep so b/c i really have no hope in life if im straight. I dont hate gays but i cant see it for me and when i masturbate its to women and if i try to men its like, " the women is much hotter and pleasing" I hope this goes soon b/c i want to continue my life as it was before this whole thing. If i were gay i would know right? i wouldnt think i was straight then bi then straight later on right?
2007-01-26 08:30:19 · update #1
You are 16, your body is going through changes right now. Hormones are going crazy inside you. Do not be in a hurry to label yourself. As your body settles down it will tell you who you are. Neither is any greater or lesser than the other. You are who you are. Once you know for sure, embrace it and live a funfilled happy life.
Good Luck!
2007-01-26 08:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get yourself in a panic. You're hormones are in high gear (16-18) now and make you horny over almost anything. Most people are at least a little bit "bi"--under the right circumstances and with the right person. That's perfectly normal. And it's normal to worry about "fitting in" at your age. Being gay is unpopular, so boys panic that they might be gay even if they have no reason to think that. If you get hot over girls and not over guys, then you're as straight as anyone else you know. And if as you get older, guys start to turn you on, that's just the way it goes. The important thing is for you to be with whoever you're happy being with, not what you call it. You will always be you.
Btw, I read that no teenager is ever as confident as he appears to be. If your buddies are strutting their macho selves like they KNOW what they are, don't believe a word of it. They go through the same doubts you do, just not always about the same things.
2007-01-26 16:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16, and you don't have to "decide" about your orientation for a really long time.
You are probably straight. Most people are. The chances of your being gay are pretty slim, since most gay guys are not that turned on by women. You don't even sound like you're that attracted to guys.
I wonder if you are having self-doubts in other areas, too. Perhaps you don't feel like you fit in with your peers. Perhaps your family is having trouble.
Either way, you can consider yourself unsure at this point, and decide on whom to date based on the person rather than on their gender. My guess is that you'll find yourself going out with girls almost exclusively.
2007-01-26 16:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's really telling here is your admission that your "straight feelings" are associated with feelings of superiority, as evidenced by your laughter toward gay and bi people (whom you seem to believe are inferior).
I perceive this as a defense against the uncertainty of your own sexual orientation. That is, you are insecure in your heterosexuality, so to prove to yourself and others that you really are straight, you mock homosexual or bisexual individuals as a way of distancing yourself from your own ambivalence.
You talk a lot about why women are so attractive, but you don't say much about what it is about men that has you questioning your attraction to women. Perhaps it's still too threatening a subject for you to ponder too deeply.
As for your depression, it's probably linked to your own internalized homophobia. In other words, the very same process that has you mocking gay and bi people is implicated in making you miserable, because there is a part of you that identifies with them. It's hard on a person to be hated, especially to be hated by oneself.
You might want to talk to your shrink about how you can overcome your homophobia so you can stop belittling others and punishing yourself for something beyond anyone's control. Good luck.
2007-01-26 16:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 16 it is too soon to worry about it. Many people your age were confused as to their orientation, which has been tesitified to here. Meanwhile just live your life as the best person you can be. In time all will become clear.
2007-01-26 16:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you will know for certain, however, from your post it doesn't sound like you're gay, just creating a lot of drama for yourself.
2007-01-26 16:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with yourself, you are probably gay, your mom says it is a phase because she wants you to be straight.
2007-01-26 16:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by txlesbian06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dork
2007-01-26 17:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by melvin snively 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋