of 3 years. We have a 2 year old together and I have been the primary caregiver in my sons life as his dad works out of town several months out of the year. My HUGE issue is I dont have any money as I have been a stay home mom and thought dedicating my life to my child would be a good thing, aparently I was mistaken.
I need to get out, I live with a narcissist who WILL NOT change even a little bit, I am 26 and dont want to waste any more of my time with on him, I deserve better, nothing makes this man happy other than sex, serioulsy.
I dont know what to do, I have no family to help me or friends as I have lost my friends because he always thought I was cheating, so I stopped seeing them.
To know more read my last 2 questions.
2007-01-26 08:23:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Walk out the door and never come back. Go to a woman's shelter. God bless you.
2007-01-26 08:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off I would go by the court house or the police dept. and file a PFA (protection from abuse). It doesn't cost anything. That is a start so that if he does anything to you, it would be criminally chargeable. Though this part will be kinda embarassing I would pack up anything you pawn and head over to the pawn shop and get some money. If you don't have a car to drive, wait til he takes a nap or a shower and then make a run for it. If you are married you can't techinically steal the car, you are just driving it. Then go a women's shelter. Once you feel safe and you are working then call your friends and family and tell them you are sorry for not being a friend for a while. They will understand and most likely help you. Under no circumstance should you let him alone with the child or go back to him once this starts unless he seeks professional help and REALLY changes. I know it is hard but in the long run it will be better. Do you want your son to grow up and treat women like that. NO!!!! SO show him how you want him to treat women and find a good guy that will treat you like you should be treated. Good luck and I will pray that things go easily for you.
2007-01-26 08:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by samantha s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up as much as you can in your car after he leaves for work. Pick up your son , get in the car, and leave. Even if you haven't spoken to your family in a while, they will not turn you away. This is what abusers do. They minimize your contact with the outside and keep you financially dependent so you can't leave. They strip you of your resources to get out of the relationship. Don't take it. Go to a shelter or a church. Go to the police station and ask to speak with a female officer about any shelters. Don't call the police, as they will have to come to your home. Leave when he is gone. Have a plan on where to go.
2007-01-26 09:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's so so sad to hear your story. I think you should get out as soon as you can before it gets worse. Even if you don't have friends and money you could go to a shelter, call someone. I know you're smart enough to do that because you're trying to reach out to someone by posting this question and I am pretty sure there's more like you who don't even have such courage to ask questions and advice. Report that son of a ***** and get out while you can. Right now he has you just where he wants you. You have a kid, no job, no friends and you think you have nowhere to go. Don't let him have his way. And surely don't use the kid as an excuse. Good luck and I wish you well.
2007-01-26 09:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Flawless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear what you are going through, but you really need to get out of there and protect you and your child's life. There are plenty of womans shelter out there that will help you get going, and before you know it, you will be living on your own, making friends, or making up with old ones. Start your life over, your young you don't need someone like that, that treats you like crap. Good Luck and God Bless you.
2007-01-26 08:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE'S BEING ABUSIVE ... GET OUT OF THERE FAST!!!! You never know when he may just decide to knock you into your next life girl! Get your baby and go to a shelter, ask neighbors, community leaders, go to a church, a homeless shelter, anywhere to get away from him. And if it all just seems too hard for you to do ... think about coming home one day to find your child beaten senseless - these things don't end with just mom ... they travel down teh line as time goes on ... he will hurt your baby ... get the hell outta there!! I'm praying for you ... best wishes!!!
2007-01-26 08:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are things to do. You should start a savings acc. 5 bucks that would go for food put in it, anything to get started, just your name on acc. get a p.o. box for yourself. Now start to call around to the sal- vation army, health and welfare, churches, social services, homeless shelters, legal aid and stuff, yeh time to get out and get on you feet again.
my brother went to a homeless shelter, (long story) yeh he did not like it but he stayed 6 months working temp jobs that some were for only a day but then those people called back just for him. then week jobs came and finally he landed a permanent one. he saved his money for those six months and with some luck and help from community actions got a used car, insurance, and then a place to live.
community action is a business that works through health and welfare with gas vouchers, food vouchers, and contact #'s for different things. food banks and stuff.
I wish you the best, starting over is hard but you can do it. there are places and people to help, you just need to pick up the phone.
2007-01-26 09:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa I'm certain that there must be a women's hostile or shelter in your area. They will help you with housing, financially they will direct you to the proper people and if you need legal advice will also recommend or arrange for you to speak with one. In addition if you feel threatened by your husband they will also involve the police and help you put a restraining order on him. As well children are welcome to stay with their mothers at these spots and the majority of them are in areas that are suppose to be unknown to the perpetrator of the violence. Nobody has to live under these types of circumstances and you can have safe refuge if you seek it out at one of these shelters. Best of luck to you and your child.
2007-01-26 08:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely One question is do you prefer to spend something of your lifelike this? i might go away. you're top you do no longer deserve this scientific care and that i'm sorry to declare if it is not purely psychological anymore. If while he needed you out of how and rather of asserting excuse me or some thing like that he slammed a freezer door on your arm to flow you The Abuse is now turning actual besides. you would be able to prefer some Counselling for your self to handle what he's doing to you. sounds like he would Benifit from some Anger administration besides i comprehend while me and my guy went by way of this i've got been given some help for me too and it helped lots and it replaced for us yet Make no Mistake I have been given fortunate men like what you're describing do no longer regularly substitute except they like to I divorced a guy for an identical reasons he became mentally abusive yet quickly It became actual to the factor he very almost killed me in case you wanna communicate i'm right here you could digital mail me or upload me on your messenger i will relate I surely have been there As to the melancholy is your husband on anti-depressants. the reality that the melancholy is being left untreated in a manner would desire to be no longer basically inflicting his habit yet worsening it i comprehend this for a actuality i be bothered by melancholy besides and in the past i've got been given on medicine i became in all places too. i might flow Up and down Like loopy And melancholy Runs in My family contributors So i comprehend all to nicely what melancholy can do to a individual dealt with and not dealt with one element My Dad Taught Me while i became youthful that that's a coward that abuses and hits a woman.
2016-11-01 09:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by alyson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't need to read the other two questions, pack your bags, grab your kids and leave, I do not want to hear the words "I can't" come out of you!! Get up, right now, go to the police station, they will have a social worker, or direct you to one, I mean it, log off of this computer, and GO!! NOW!!
2007-01-26 08:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and get out now. Typically abuse patterns show an escalation in their severity. It won't be easy, but if you dont leave now your situation will likely worsen. Be strong, be brave, and seek out social services or a woman's shelter.
2007-01-26 09:20:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋