my daughter is spending a week with her father, shes 4, been there since last friday, everytime my partner rings and says "do you want to talk to mummy" she says NO!!! she hasnt seen him for 7 weeks, first time shes met hes family, so im guessing shes being spoilt at the moment, and no she wont want to come home to me after getting her own way all week??? am i being paranoid???
2007-01-26 08:22:33 · 19 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thats the way it goes daddy and his family will spoil her rotten so of course she'll want to stay there specially as mummy does the boring horrible stuff like telling her off or making her behave.
2007-01-26 08:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey that's so sad. You have every right to be feeling this way. but don't make it sound like your upset when you do speak with her. she will be spoilt as you mentioned. but that wont last for ever. She will see them for what they truly are. I hope that they will treat her kind and that she continues to be spoilt by them but then she has to remember that things will have to come back to some form of normality. Just try to establish some sort of normality for her. and arrange with her father not to go overboard with gifts when she spends the time at his house. When she comes home show an interest in her and ask her how she got on and what she liked most about her visit. let her see that your not paranoid about her visits. I wish you well.
2007-01-26 08:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being paranoid. My son is almost 4, lives with me full time and spends weekends with his father. The first day or so when he comes home, he doesn't want to be with me because, daddy takes him shopping all the time and buys him things that I simply cannot afford.
Just keep in mind that your daughter is still too young to realise that Mummy is the one who is always there and Daddy is the "entertainer" so to speak.
You have every right to feel upset, I know I used to but, now I see it for what it is and I don't let it get to me anymore.
2007-01-26 08:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your daughter is 4 years old, I presume you will TELL her when she is to come home as she is too young to make these decisions on her own. I don't have children myself but I would certainly not let a four year old make me feel paranoid. You are her mother - she loves you unconditionally. Of course she is being spoilt but it doesn't mean that she doesn't want to come home - sometimes if kids are busy doing something they enjoy then don't want to talk - it can be hurtful to be spurned by a little one but that's our own ego - they don't think like that. Be more confident.
2007-01-26 08:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being paraniod but you are right she is being spolit rotten at the moment by his side of the family and she doesnt realise that by saying no your getting hurt at the other end. the week will fly by enjoy the time to yourself, but make sure that when she is home you tell her how much you missed her but ensure that your not giving into demands cos you havent seen her for a week and she prob had her own way for this time.
2007-01-26 08:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just miss her and are jealous that she is spending time away from you. But she needs a relationship with her father as well. You will get your daughter back, don't worry about that. No matter what she is given there is nothing or no-one that could entice a child away from their mother. Good luck.
2007-01-26 08:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you maybe but to a 4 year old meeting new people who spoil you rotten isnt bad.It must seem like fun.You are doubting your daugthers loyality 2 you.She sees everything differently.Be glad they are finally getting to know their kin.You will always be her mum,and,she cant say you ever stopped her from knowing her dad.You might have to pick up the pieces when he breaks her heart like he did to you.You only learn the hard way
2007-01-26 08:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax. Your daughter is probably just having fun. My nephew did this a lot when he'd spend extended time at my house. He was always happy to go back to his Mom, though.
Think of the opposite scenario. If she were crying for you, I think it would be worse.
Children are bonded to their mother. I'm sure she will be pleased to you.
2007-01-26 08:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ann you again babe ? Yes she is being spoilt babe but when she comes back she will settle with you again. In future I would say to you dont let her go for so long. You are missing her and need her with you.
2007-01-26 09:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there.
dont sit there getting all worked up about your daughter she will miss you soon but at the moment she is being well taken care of .BUT . what about you this is your first break in weeks so relax and unwind and go out and enjoy yourself and before you know it they will be throwing her back in your arms.literally.
2007-01-26 09:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by garry w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋