my husband and i have been married for 7 years, my father in law has lived with us the whole time,he has caused some almighty rows.i made him feel very welcome and treated him with respect.
nothing in our house is private he is always poking his nose in where its not wanted .he has helped my husband out in the past and continues to throw it back in his fase my husband has always payed him pack.we have a 3 year old daughter and have had no time to be a family just the 3 of us, he is always telling me what to do with our daughter .he works part time when he is home he sits in front of the tv untill he gose to bed this is not good for our 3 year old i have spoken to him about this and the volume as the tv is right undre her room.i'm made to feel not welcom in my own home.we cant afford to move out have asked him to leave to be met with im going XXXXXXX nowear i do appoligise as i dont like swearing .i have asked my husband to talk to him but it goes in one ear and out the other of dad
2007-01-26 08:21:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh this is bad. I would have gone mad by now. Say to your hubby that either his dad goes or you go. You are right its not fair on you three of you's to have him living with you in your house. I amazed you have a child with him around. Also dont let him tell you how to bring your child up just say to him, you have brought your own child/ren up now leave me as my daughter is mine not your's. You have to put your foot down and maybe he will start repecting you and life may become easier
2007-01-26 10:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 03:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey....MAKE HIM LEAVE, if he won't leave then call the police to move him....it's not his home...why is he there? where's his wife? is there anyone else in his family who will put him up? you will never have a normal life while he's in your home...he seems very disrespectful to all 3 of you and makes it look like it's his home...tell him you'll give him a month to find his own home, or his stuff will be on the doorstep...say what you mean and mean what you say....don't let this old man trample all over you....he needs to learn respect and manners, after all, it's you and your hubby who have put a roof over his ungrateful head, also if he has the telly on loud at night, go over an either turn it off or lower the volume, if he turns it up again, then keep lowering it till he gets the message....don't put up with it....who is he anyway....Sergeant major dad....show him who's boss...also tell your hubby to talk to his father, and this time MAKE him listen, you don't need this crap....
2007-01-26 13:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd start by taking the fuse out of the TV plug and i probably wouldn't even tell my husband, in case he felt sorry for the old devil and put it back. That takes care of the noise problem interrupting your childs bedtime.
I'd also give said husband an ultimatium, either he talks to him and tells him to move out asap or your'll stop the bedroom antics (that always drives them mad). Threaten your husband that you will talk to him yourself, which won't be pleasant. If that doesn't work then your'll just have to do it and tell father-in-law to leave and if that doesn't work i'd flipping well move out. Good luck
2007-01-26 08:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by sarah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say except that maybe it's time to fight fire with fire. You say that you treat him with respect and kindness. In turn he uses you for a doormat. Hubby doesn't appear to care. It may be tough as you don't want to be a bad example for your little one but what would happen if you were to get in his face- ask him straight out, why are you unhappy with us? What do you want from us? What do you not like about me? What is so bad about the way I care for my child? I don't propose that you actually take his advice but the fact that you haven't confronted makes it seem like he can behave this way without consequence. You must have your hubby's support in this though.
Good luck to you...
2007-01-26 08:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Tooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your and your husband's home and your FIL has no legal part in the ownership/rental of the home then tell FIL to leave. Sounds as though you need a new Husband too.
2007-01-26 08:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your family. It your house. Your daughter and husband. Find a way to get him out before he destroys your family. But first get your husband to understand the situation throughtly. If he is on your side then your battle is half warn. He already had his family this is yours.
2007-01-26 08:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by mujja 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate ultimatums. I think they are too hurtful, too risky and too vengeful. But, in this case I believe I'd tell husband it's you and baby or daddy. He has to choose.
2007-01-26 08:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay it on the line to him. Tell him to sling his fcuking hook.
2007-01-26 08:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋