I thought Id make a poll,just a bit curious.Ive know my husband for 3 years but actually been married for seven months and I can say I am not happy,my husband has changed alot.
2007-01-26 08:13:43 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just under 10 years, and I am very happy. My hubby and I make it a priority to make time for each other. We have both grown so much in the years we have been together and we respect each others growth. We have differences in opinion but at the same time we respect the differences and agree to disagree.
2007-01-26 08:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 14 years. We dated for 3 years. We love each other and are happy :)
Please remember you can't be happy 100% of the time. Perhaps, the changes you are noticing have been a part of his personality all along, but never noticed it until you lived with him.
Examine why you are not happy and concentrate on yourself. If you focus on what you see is wrong with him, there is little you can do to change him. Besides, it is hard to be loving if you are criticizing and being judgemental. It really helps to focus on the positive.
On the other hand, if you look into yourself, you can work on yourself to make your frame of mind and situation better. Sometimes it is all in how you look at things.
For example, when I think my husband hasn't done anything romantic in a while. I think to myself, "OK, I'm complaining SO what have I DONE recently that would qualify as a loving gesture??" In this case, I end up not resenting him so much and not expecting too much.
Sometimes, when you make changes to better yourself, the people around you change for the better, too.
Marriage is a commitment. Neither you nor your husband are perfect; this helps keep things in perspective.
Try the formula:
If the Positive/Good Things about your relationship outweigh the Negative/Bad Things; consider staying in it and working on it.
If the Negative/Bad Things outweigh the Positive/Good Things; it might not be worth your sacrifices to stay in it.
Good Luck, Sweetie! I hope you find joy and harmony...
2007-01-26 17:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBearKnowzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 3 years and knew him for 9 years (at least I thought I did). I am in the process of moving out (2 weeks)
He started having inappropiate friendships with other women 12/30/03 up until now. We were married 12/08/03. So no I am not happy at all.
2007-01-26 16:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Together for 2 years, married 4 months, happy.
2007-01-26 17:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years and very happy. I will say the first 6 months or so were pretty rocky for both of us. It was a huge adjustment and stressful I think just because it was something new and we had to get used to it. I had crying fits over the stupidest things. He was depressed. He wouldn't sleep in bed with me at first because he wasn't used to having someone in bed and everytime I moved it woke him up.
I think the most important thing is to keep communicating with each other. Make time for special dates where you don't nag each other or point out each other's faults. If he doesn't want to talk or seems distant or angry, you might want to look into counseling to uncover what's going on.
2007-01-30 12:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by gafpromise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost 4 years. Pretty rocky for a while. My husband is a veteran of two wars (present war included). After he came home, he was emotionally abusive and very controlling and demanding (that's putting it mildly). After a couple of years, he finally got help, but I had lost a lot of weight because of the stress and you could see the effects stress had on my face, I looked a lot older. Plus, my mother-in-law is a crazy, rabid, beast. Now, we're happy as can be. My point is to tough it out. You took vows, honey. You have to honor them unless he does something like cheat on you or beat you. It will get better. Marriage isn't usually what people think it's going to be. You just have to adjust (depending on how bad your husband's behavior is). If he's just not as romantic as he used to be or doesn't help with housework anymore, you better live with it.
2007-01-26 16:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married for 30 years. Was married at 18, and it was the biggest mistake I ever made. I'm content in my marriage, but not always happy. To much to lose if I get out now. Good Luck.
2007-01-26 17:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my ex-husband for 7 years, we got married thinking we were in love and we only last 6 months. I left him because he changed alot and I wasn't going to put up with his s***. We divorced, and now I'm happy being single again!!
You never know who you are marrying until you live with that person.
2007-01-26 16:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by sexy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 22 yrs. Divorce will be final on March 29.
I actually plan on us living together after the divorce but if not "Oh, well".
There is a lot of strange undercurrents in our situation and it would make for a very long story. (We both still really love each other)
2007-01-26 17:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known my wife for 9 years and we've been married for 4 (May 07) Like most posters, we've had good and bad. We lived together for a year before getting engaged. Happy? Me...sometimes. Her... all the time. Would I do it all over? No. One person cannot make you happy and meet all your needs for the rest of your life.
2007-01-26 21:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by croaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋