When you look at yourself in the mirror, it's common to make judgements on yourself based on your appearance, or maybe give yourself little pep-talks when you're feeling down, or even to stare in admiration, or disgust. When you look at yourself though, how many of you primarily talk to a "you"... and conversely, how many of you primarily refer to yourself as an "I".
Just merely out of curiousity, I believe there may be a correllation between self assuredness, self distance, self concern and many other factors concernning on how we view ourselves and the primary self view we have in the mirror.
What do you say, and why do you think?
2007-01-26 08:02:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Me personally? when I'm feeling really self secure, I'm a "you" person... You should shave... you should quit smoking... etc... because I think I view myself from a more objective perspective... When I'm feeling dependent on others, or just down in general... it's usually an "I"... I suck, I need to... man I gotta...
I spent the majority of my college years as a You, but then moved to another country for a girl and got dumped... and became an I person...
just tonight, I think I found my "you" again.
2007-01-26 08:09:33 · update #1
The "I/You" perception you are experiencing is based on how the mind develops.
According to transactional psychology, there are three separate aspects of the mind: The parent, the adult and the child.
When a person is born they are only "the child." The child is the part that has all of a persons feelings (and emotions) and perceptions. The "I feel / I want / I need" part.
The adult is the computer like part of the mind that just records information. The "the sky is blue, " "the number 7 bus runs on that street" part.
The parent is the part of the mind that is based on what we learn from our parents and other authority figures (teachers, clergy, older siblings) as we grow up. The parent is the voice in your head that says, "put on clean socks" and "eat your spinach" part. This is the part which judges you.
In a perfect world, all three aspects of mind work together to help you function in the world. In the real world, one part dominates and makes you unhappy.
Read "I'm Okay, You're Okay" by Thomas Harris
2007-01-26 09:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not need to look in the mirrior to talk to myself.I talk to myself all day long. I love myself most of the time. Other times I hate myself. The matter of self is really important, it who we know best for the most part. We change inside and out on going.
2007-01-26 08:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by tim D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She looked into the old womans eyes
The glimmer of many years gone by
The young girl held her hand to her cheek
She wanted to ask, but could not speak
She wondered what stories could be told
from the days of youth, till the days of old
What love in her life, what had she seen
People she had met, places she had been
Who was this woman who soul she met
A tear in her eye did the mirror reflect
Marti
This is what I thought of one day after looking in the mirror
2007-01-26 08:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Marti 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i look at myself all the time!
everytime theres a reflection i cant help but stare!
and yes i do talk to myself
somtimes not in front of a mirror!
just randomly throw myself sum thoughts
or i make up scenerios in my head the way i want them to happen and the way it actaully happened!
2007-01-26 08:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by y que?♣ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. Most of the time it's, "I or my". I need a hair cut, my hair looks alright, I look alright in this outfit... ect.
The only time I think of myself as, "you" is when I'm really done up. With my make up and hair done and dressed really cute... then it's you. Like, "You look good!"
Maybe it's cause I'm suprised I look good, or I don't feel like I'm truly representing myself with make up and hair done cute. When I'm just natural looking it's really me. Does that make sense?
Good question though, I'd never realized that before.
2007-01-26 08:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by starsmoak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i stare at the mirror and refer myself [in the mirror] as [i] is when i'm judging myself by looks
and when i refer myself as [you] is when i feel like i'm talking to a different person then myself]
like when i'm mad at myself or something, i'll go "why u do that for" or "omg! ur so stupid" etc
2007-01-26 08:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Amanista 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kind of talk to myself (weird, yes I know.) I'll say "You're so fat." then I'll respond to myself and say "I know I am."
2007-01-26 08:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by fly_away_with_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋