My boyfriend and I have lived together for the past 7 or 8 months. We each have our seperate bank accounts. We split the rent 50/50, we take turns buying groceries and other household necessities, he pays $100 of the electric bill and if it's anything more than that, I pay the rest.
He makes about 35% more anually so he's been able to save a lot of money since I moved in. I don't want to sound selfish, but I'm getting the short end of the stick here. How do I bring this up without coming across like a total b*tch?
Neither of us is ready to get married so that's why we haven't pulled our money together.
What has been your experience?
2007-01-26 07:54:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So how do you bring it up without being a bee oytch?
If you have a good relationship, you can't be a b*** by bringing it up naturally in the next conversation about finances.
If it's been bugging you for a while, you've probably got some pent up anger over it, don't let something trigger it, then you'll be the b****.
It might be fair to share the expenses in proportion to average income, for example. you make $1000 a week, he makes 1350, total 2350, a week.
his portion of common expenses, 1350/2350, yours 1000/2350.
you can do the math, but I think he'll be about 2/3 and you 1/3.
With a $100 electric bill, you can't have much of a big place.
However, do the math, he'll still be able to save more than you, you might not gain as much as you think, but it'll be a good start to more equitable sharing.
2007-01-26 08:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well right now my boyfriend is the sole breadwinner while I go to school. When I worked we used to split everything 50/50 but we made about the same.
I think a far better way if you two have different incomes is to pay based on percentage of income. For example if you make $2500 and he makes $3500 monthly and you both contribute 35% of your income to $2100 worth of bills each month (or however much you need to make your bills), you will pay $875 while he pays $1225. After the bills are paid you will have $1625 left instead of $1450. He will then only have $1875 left instead of his usual $2450, but it would make you feel more of an equal rather than feeling like you have less than he does.
Okay, my math may be off a bit but you get the idea. It just evens the playing field a little bit.
2007-01-26 08:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Roni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my current situation is about the same we've lived together for a little over a year.. we split the rent fifty fifty.. he pays the electicity and other utilities.. i pay the phone bill and the satelittle bill.. as well as the car insurance.. he tends to pay more for groceries... and our morning coffee.. and for most of the work we've been getting done to our cars we don't split everything fifty fifty... but we take turns paying for this and that.. depending on what the other person has going on.. it works out for us.. even though we have seperate accounts we both think of it as our money.. cause we pool it together.. to make sure everything gets paid.. incase someone is a bit short for something that is coming out of their account..
it works well for us
2007-01-26 08:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 03:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
half and half for rent, utility, tv, cables.
2007-01-26 08:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋