I am dating a 61 year old man with 5 children all over 24 years of age. When there is a birthday they all get together. During Christmas they spent the Saturday night before christmas together, the children ex wife and ex husband, decorating the tree at the ex husbands house. They all spent Christmas Eve at the Ex wifes for Dinner, Christmas Morning Breakfast at ex wife's then Christmas afternoon, eating and opening gifts at the ex husbands house.
He managed to slip over to my house on Christmas Eve around 9:45 pm and left at 6:30 am to shower, dress and go to breakfast with the family. He told me we would have our Christmas the following Thursday. He did not have time to wrap my gift he explained.
The 24 year old daughter lives with the ex wife and when the ex husband ask the daughter to do something with him she ask if the mother can come along because she is home alone. The ex wife tags along.
2007-01-26 07:50:19 · 12 answers · asked by Pat H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think it would be fine IF he included you. If he is leaving you out of the picture then there is something wrong here! It is wonderful when parents who are divorced can put away all animosity and be friends for the kids who need parents all their lives! It could be a good arrangement depending on whether or not you would be included. If not, find someone who is willing to share all aspects of his life with you!
2007-01-26 08:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it sounds to me like they passed a few times and she felt he would be a good person to talk with about what occurred in her divorce and to ask what went wrong or to ask what she should have done or should do now. I would not blame your huband for this unless he follows up and does have coffee with her. This was "her" lead. Your husband is a married guy and should tell her that. If it was a work related thing and out in the open, lasted for only one short cup of coffee and others were around to hear the conversation then I'd say that's ok if you trust your husband to do only that. Other than having a good friend there in the hospital who could or would keep an eye out to see what occurs, or hiring a pi after the fact, I would say that you would need to trust your husband. I hear what you are saying though and agree but I'd say to trust him and see what he does, to see if he can be trusted. Sometimes when people are older and mature they just want to talk with a friend or a friend of a friend (maybe even to spread bad news about a mate). I don't know her purpose. I've been working for 45 years and I don't see anything wrong with colleagues meeting up to discuss business over coffee. Sometimes a home comment does come out but that gets brushed off and company business discussion continues.
2016-03-29 03:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these two should have stayed married!!! They are all adults no need for that attatcment still. Its great to be amaicable but come on.....my ex-husbands new wife gets weirded out if I call to talk about my 11yr old she is so insecure...so i respect their space and keep my distance. Their children are old enough to understand. this situation needs some BOUNDARIES...how long divorced? and if its been a while this might be why neither one of them is re-married. Have some dignity and stand up for yourself if this makes you uncomfortable say it in a adult and tactful way....
2007-01-26 09:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by sexandthecityaint got nothin!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The daughter is 24 years old.. There is no need for him to spend all that time with his ex-wife.... You need to speak to him about that. It is unacceptable, and the father needs to explain to his daughter that his ex wife is not his problem anymore. Either she wants to spend time with him or he doesn't do anything with her....
The daughter might be doing this on purpose to break you guys up... If he doesn' change things, then maybe you should change him.....
2007-01-26 08:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either accept what is going on or quit dating him. He's set in his ways and will continue to spend time with his family, including his ex wife. Just because people divorce, it doesn't mean they have to hate each other. They may be great friends and enjoy spending time together with their children.
Get over it or get out.
2007-01-26 08:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may have had a mutual divorce. Its hard to say without info. I think you need to reevaluate the situation and figure out what your role is in this relationship. If you feel left out talk to him or find someone else. It sounds like they have a good bond that may not be easy to draw boundaries on.
2007-01-26 07:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, quit being paranoid. Nothing is going on! There is no set amount of time the father of this woman's children can spend with his children and the ex. Get over it! If you don't, I wouldn't be surprised if he went back with his ex. If he's not happy at home, he won't come home.
2007-01-26 07:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Id be so pissed. Its good to have a healthy friendship with your ex if kids are involved but it seems like they're acting like they're dating and he neglecting u. U need to find out where he wants to be.
2007-01-26 07:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by marinewife 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dump him. That sounds like you are having an affair with a married man.
2007-01-26 07:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds as if he doesn't have time for u he's too busy with his ex and his children, why does he even have a girlfriend anyway?
2007-01-26 08:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋