2007-01-26 07:46:42 · 12 answers · asked by ajtownsend83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes ... as long as the biological father doesn't have a problem with it ... I believe they have to sign something too ... my grandpa adopted my mommy when she was 18 mths ... I think it was the coolest and most responsible thing he could have done - back in the day ... we've never had that weird - but he's not my real dad/grandpa thing .. he's been there since day one - !
2007-01-26 07:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance wants to be considered as the father of this child but would it be better to leave it blank and have him adopt the child afterwards. And if so how do you go about an adoption like that? Yes, it is best to wait until the baby is born, you two get married and then he can file for adoption to be on the certificate. It is best to do so. Especially if you two are not married yet. You would need to contact the bi logical father, have an attorney and set up hearing for him to sign his rights away for your husband to file for custody. Each state can be different. I recommend talking to your family attorney for this. You can give your child any last name you want to give. If you rather give your child your last name and change it later when married, that is ok. My step sister is doing that right now. I would suggest leaving the birth certificate alone as far as putting down the father issue. In some states that is illegal. In California it isn't. My mom still put my bi logical father down as the father since he is. Yet, some states will not allow that. You need to check with your states regulations on that. I do not have my bi logical father's last name. I have my older siblings dad last name. My mom let me know in the begin I have a different dad and that is ok. My bi logical dad wasn't really there all my life pretty much anyhow. (long story to explain). You can also give his last name to save all the document changes if you would like if he is able to adopt. However keep in mind that the bi logical father can come into this baby's life as the real father, even if he isn't there during the pregnancy. Having your fiance be a part is wonderful. But, still doesn't change the fact this child has a bi logical father who still has rights and can fight to have those rights. If the rumors are true, I do suggest you get started on this now and not wait for that time to come. Yet, take it easy and don't stress yourself. Stressing might cause complications in your pregnancy. Contact your lawyer and start discussing options of what you can do. Best advice is from law that deals with this as their daily career lives.
2016-05-24 02:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends whether the real father knows about his child. why isnt the real father on the birth certificate? if the real father knows about the child and is willing to allow the adoption...then you shoulnt have a problem..but dont push it...if the birth father does not want the adoption to go ahead - dont do it because the day will come when you will live to regret it....it will be a life time of struggles..and the only person to suffer is the child!
every child has the right to have a life with their mother AND father...if all parties are amicalbe - it can really work out well!! remember...if you keep your child from one or other parent...there will come a day when they will resent you for it!
can i just add...step parents are brilliant in most cases - but if a relationship has broken down...and we all go off and meet other partners - it takes really mature & loving minds to make the children the centre of their universe..and a realisaton that all that matters is the welfare of the child. SO...mother, father, step mum, step dad etc., etc.,...all work together - belive me..it works!
2007-01-26 08:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in Texas and my brother married his wife who had 2 boys previously. They have been married for 5 years and he still has not been able to adopt the boys. He would have to contact both of their dads and get consent. Neither dad is on the birth certificate but he still needs them to sign away parental rights before he can adopt them. It really does depend on what state you are in. You could try to look it up on your states website or call an attorney and ask them.
Good Luck.
2007-01-26 08:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but it's sort of lying to the system Youhave to contact a lawyer and tell him that your finace wants to legitimize your child. Don't tell anyone that he is not the real father. As long as you don't have any legal documents that show who the real father is you are ok. Don't tell the lawyer that is not the real father either. A legitmization is a legal process that states that you consent and he consents that he is the father. Let me know if you have any more questions on how to file this process. My email is PV2Romero@yahoo
2007-01-26 08:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by "Q" 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. The court would have to severe bio dad's rights and/or give consent to the adoption. It's kinda complicated. You should speak with an attorney.
2007-01-26 07:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he is only your fiancee. NO... If he is your husband. YES..
He needs to be a father of your son, thats the time he will petition for adoption your son. There is some INS forms for that. But you should be legally married.
2007-01-26 08:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he can talk with an attorney and the biological dad might not have to sign anything if he not pay child support or anything. If he was in the kids life paying for things and such and then he would have to sign something. Good luck.
2007-01-26 07:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by iola 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to make all the effort that you can to find him and get him to sign his rights to your son away. or you can go through the courts to see what you have to do to make it happen, my friend did this and after 3 years of this sperm donor not doing anything for his child, and him being incarcerated, the courts allowed his parental right to be terminated. check your local laws and consult with a lawyer.
2007-01-26 08:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have to make an earnest effort to contact the bioligical dad and get a waiver from him.
This may vary from state to state - country to country.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 07:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋