He left the window open on the computer. I came home during lunch got on the computer, wasn't snooping, but found a message from his ex mentioning she found him there & always wanted 2 find out how he'd been doing. She mentioned how sad she was that they lost contact with eachother. She apparantly found him on the site, because through there she has kept in touch with his sister & once asked about him, but his sis never answers her questions. He asked she not mention 2 his sister of their communication, because "my wife has a jealous streak and I wouldn't want 2 have any problems." I was offended by his comment, I've never been the jeoulous type & was hurt that he would say that 2 his ex, I feel like he's "bad-mouthing" me. I can't mention I found the message, he ran out 2 do errands, he thought I would be home later, which explains why the window was open. Should I be offended? Should I worry about their communication? Am I overreacting? I am pregnant w/our 1st baby.
2007-01-26 07:43:20 · 12 answers · asked by lola913 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry about your situation. However, my opinion is, let it go, see what transpires. You can not control him, and his choices are his not yours. Concentrate on what you are supposed to be doing in the relationship. Some times these things come and go. As for him, if he truly loves and is committed to you, there should be no issue of infidelity in the future. As time will tell. Remember, she is an "X" for some reason, and if he wishes to re-visit that previous lifestyle, that is his choice. stay away from the game if it transpires. Keep yourself healthy, and maybe communicate with him about her and the past relationship he had with her. This will give you an over site of the situation, and at the same time, he will find your interest properly orchestrated for the right reasons, instead of arguing and building insecurity when you need it least in your pregnancy.
2007-01-26 07:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tired of Users 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't such a big deal then why didn't he come to u and just say she had made contact with him on there. I us it as well, but if someone is pops up to chat with me I always show my husband there is no reason I shouldn't. I have nothing to hide though. Sounds to me like u should confront him on it, u were not being a sneak about it u simply came home while he was being the sneak.
2007-01-26 07:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go, really...Funny you asked this, but my hubby just got an IM from his ex this afternoon asking how he was doing and how Omaha was cuz she moved here too! This girl is just trying to cause problems for you and your husband and I would just let it go. He can't help that she is contacting him, he could block her or just ignore her. It's not like he's contacting her. Let her keep trying to communicate and ask your husband to simply ignore her. It's very disrespectful if he's chatting with her and I wouldn't put up with it, but I also wouldn't start a huge fight over it. If she doesn't stop, I would reply to her that she needs to leave you and your FAMILY alone and move on. Be the bigger person, be cordial about it and don't stoop to her level. I hope this helps, it's easy to get angry about it cuz I'm kinda pissed about it too, but it's not worth arguing about.
2007-01-26 07:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if I could see his profile. If he says yes then ask him whats going on with this ex of his but if you know he loves you don't even worry about it in the long run hes yours comes home to you and sleeps next to you every night. Girl you got him he chose you to have his baby always remember that
2007-01-26 07:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Chyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a creep...i am sorry for what your going through...thats really upsetting to hear especially when your pregnant...anyways talk to him about it and why he feels the need to talk like that to his ex about you in a bad way. He shouldn't even be communicating with an ex anyways cause she probably wants to be more than "JUST FRIENDS" and him talking like that about you only makes her think she just might have a chance with him.
2007-01-26 07:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by ღCCღ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your own acct. on myspace and keep contact and befriend her if your not jealous. That way you'd be proving him wrong. Not to mention there would be even more guilt on their part if anything further should develop.
2007-01-26 07:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can't mention it? your marriage isn't going to last very long if you don't do something to open up the lines of communication.
2007-01-26 07:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by pooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest tell him how you feel and just have him stop communication. if he fights you on then there is probally something else there. If he continues to talk to her tell him you feel you have the right to check up on him.
2007-01-26 07:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be mad at him. Keep a watch for him, dont tell him, see if he acts different, any messages in his inbox. Any phone calls to different numbers. If it gets really serious confront him
2007-01-26 07:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I understand where you are coming from, but I don't think that is acceptable. Your not over reacting. Let him know how you feel.
2007-01-26 07:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋