If a wife kept her husband happy at home he would not cheat?

Question

Anybody else find that comment as offensive as I do?

Answer 1

A persons character and morals is what determines a cheat. If you are not happy with your self you can't be happy with anyone else. That statement is very offensive as it puts the blame of ones actions onto someone else.

Answer 2

It's largely true. There are exceptions and there are folks who have unrealistic expectations.

But the bottom line is that satisifed folks typically don't cheat.

This comes from a man who was cheated upon by an unfaithful wife.

I faced the hard reality that she wouldn't have entertained the idea of an affair if she had been happy at home.

There is a fine line between owning our own parts of a failed relationship, such as facing the truth that I didn't always meet my ex-wife's emotional needs, and blaming myself for her bad behavior.

I do not ever feel responsible for her choosing an affair.

I do feel responsible for my part in creating an environment where she (wrongly) felt the only way to have her needs met was outside the relationship.

I don't find it offensive at all, it is largely true in most cases.

Answer 3

I seen that asked in other places and the majority of men agree with that statement while the majority of women find it offensive.
So what does that say?
Just for the record, I have a partner that keeps me very satisified at home, unlike my first (ex) wife. I did not cheat on my wife, we just divorsed, and I have no reason or urge to cheat on my current partner.
So maybe there is something to keeping your partner satisfied at home and they'd not have any need to look else where.
Why do so many ladies here, have a problem with that?

Answer 4

I do. A man {or woman though i think men do it more often} have no right to cheat. Cheating only leads to more cheating..lies and hurt. It's like..why cant people get a divorce or seperation before they do this?
Most of the time...the man cuts off the woman emotionally....doesn't compliment her..doesn't appreciate her and the woman ends up bitching. Then the woman is a "*****"...but the men never get punished for their wrong.
They always want to run to someone who isn't goig to ***** and will let them do whatever the hell they want.
I think men should have their dicks sliced off for cheating personally. Woman take care of everything in life and get treated like ****.
Sorry..maybe i'm a little angry...im going through the motions with an ******* man who is ruining our relationship for an ex wife...

Answer 5

Certainly,some people are going to cheat no matter what the spouse does. They cheat even IF the spouse jumps through all the hoops. And then it's insensitive and stupid.

But if one spouse begins to withhold sex, withhold love, hold back on feelings, add abuse, add verbal hatred, etc. - those people can be hurt but should not be surprised or shocked when their mate cheats.

Cheating isn't right, but neither is running the red left hand turn light yet plenty of selfish a s s h o l e s do both. If you go on the green, you should be shocked and angry at the red light runner. But if you sit and idle while your light is green, you can be upset but don't be surprised when people behind you honk and the left hand turn idiot takes advantage.

Answer 6

No, I don't find it offensive. I believe that any person who does is probably a person who doesn't believe he/she shares any responsibility for his/her spouse's happiness.

Now I also don't believe the statement is necessarily accurate, but I don't find it to be an offensive comment.

People sometimes cheat because they are not happy, satisfied or they're needs just are not being met at home. Happy people don't cheat. Spouses have a responsibitlity to each other to help keep one another happy.

Answer 7

That is an extremely offensive comment. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do if the husband is going to cheat he will.

Answer 8

I find it offensive as a man because it just makes us look as if we are after one thing. I have been married for three and a half years and as most can vouch for the sex pretty much slows down once you get married. I am not interested in sex alone when it comes to my marriage, and although I had multiple partners before I married I am not looking to find someone else.

Answer 9

Yes, it is so offensive. Why? Because trying to prevent someone from cheating is a lot like trying to stop someone from committing suicide. If they really want to do it, they will find a way.

Answer 10

I do ... it's not true and it sickens me every time I hear someone say it, they know NOTHING. I was married for 20 years, we had a wonderful sex life, the house was always clean and he had good home cooked meals to eat, I kept my weight pleasing to him and our home was always opened to his friends and family. He was a wonderful provider, we raised 2 daughters comfortably and neither of us gambled, did drugs or spent beyond our means. We lived in a middle class neigborhood, had 2 cars and 2 dogs, and a camp we went to in the summer. I thought we were a perfect companion for each other to grow up with and grow old together....yeh right dream on Alice!! When I saw him with his female of the night and started divorce proceedings I found out from "our" dear friends that he had cheated on me from the beginning...he had girlfriends dating back from year one...never staying long enough with any of them to create a scandle in our marriage or make me suspicious. He was a drinker, but when I was with him I was always given the wifes rights on him.