My friend E****(name not available) is bringing me homework from school...shes one of 2-4 real friends I have and she is one of my bestfriends...she lives three houses down...and I love to play and express my self and bestfriend stuff to her and her mother is a way syc***(woudn't wanna be mean)(you know why)but I treat and feel like she is my sister,she has a anoying little br**(mean again)of a brother,M*****(name again)but she is really unpopular...other tweens(age 8-12) pick on her..I am really popular...I hang around her alot,but I could go on for hours but I just need to know if I should keep her as a bestfriend and or Ect.Should I?PLease give me advice...
2007-01-26 07:19:26 · 13 answers · asked by @___{mint« 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I need it from your heart please...
2007-01-26 07:20:37 · update #1
I was a popular girl for many years before I become a mom. I learned more that being a popular won't last after high school years is over. I have seen many friends who used to be popular who found their lives the hard way and wish to be unpopular in the first place, because they have not learned on appreciating the friendships, and things. The populars think being popular will last all the lives, but it won't be. Back then, I have given myself lots to my best friend, who was a unpopular friend of mine. because I like her helping and be a real friend to me. Through her, My life became better and stronger because of my friend, unpopular one. Popular is nothing, sweetie. Sorry about this, you need to know the truth. Having her E is a blessing friend because you know you could be yourself ,no pressure, and no compete on anything and enjoy her the same way as she enjoy you for who you are. If the popular girls pick on her, Tell them being popular won't last all their life, quit on picking on her. While at it, If the girls say the bad thing to you about her. Move on ingore them. Knowing you will have a real friend all of your life - E as your best friend! Don't feel bad about others, because they will change in 20 years. After 20 years, I have lots of them come back to me and saying they wish pay attention to me and accepted me to have the different friends in the different groups.
2007-01-26 07:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Julie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from the other side. If you were the unpopular one would you like it if your best friend dropped you because she was more popular. Being popular happens because you get along with people and are well liked. There is no rule you can't be nice to everyone you know. It is called being a good person. Someday you might not be the popular one and you might wish you had been nicer to people. Might as well continue what has worked so far.
2007-01-26 07:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Butkusman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly keep her. You could be the only friend she has. I know from expierience. I was your friend back when I was in school. I was picked on, had a brat for a brother, was unpopular, every thing like that. My best friend was popular. she was head of the cheerleaders and class president. We did every thing together except cheer and do her presidential duties. I never made the squad. but she was there for me anyway. and she and I are still very good friends. Oh she got picked on sometimes by the other kids for being my friend. She told them "if you are going to pick on me because of I am friends with who I am friends with, then you won't make good friends for me."
2007-01-26 08:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is brilliant, great fun, trustworthy etc but because some of your friends are nasty to her you don't know if you should be her friend.
I think thats a very shallow way to think you should be proud to have this girl as a friend as she's obviously a decent person not like your other friends but then she deserves a decent respectful friend who is a good person like she is so maybe you should break the friendship at least until you are mature enough to understand what real friendship is
2007-01-26 08:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people have to go through similar situations in their life. the best thing for you to do is to be honest with yourself and think about whats going on. you say your friend is like a sister to you, it would sound as if she means a lot to you. a good friendship should never be sacrificed at the cost of popularity. but there is nothing wrong with having different groups of friends, however, so unless your "popular" friends see a problem with you hanging out with her and them (even if its not together) then there should be no issue here. as for the tweens WHO make fun of "E" sticks and stones, forget them!
i hope i have helped at least a little, so consider these things for yourself and good luck!
2007-01-26 07:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cory S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, just because she's not as popular as you doesn't mean that you can't be her friend. As you get older you're gonna learn that everyone you ever meet and call your friends are eventually going to change and you won't be close anymore. People usually have one or two great friends in their life, and if you guys are that close then yo need to keep it that way. Don't listen to your other "popular" friends, because they are gonna come and go, she'll be there forever. If you stop being friends w/her eventually you will regret it and then it may be too late.
2007-01-26 07:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by mandapandaz80 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets get this straight. shes a really nice friend but shes not popular. ur not sure (since shes not popular) if u should be her friend. thats messed up. if shes a good friend to u then why would u care if shes popular or not? u dont need to dump her as a friend but she obviously needs better friends than u. ur not supposed to treat ur friends like that. popularity means NOTHING when ur out of school and dumping her as a friend just cause shes not popular will make u get an awful reputation as a snob.
2007-01-26 07:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like hanging around her and you guys have fun then why shouldn't you be friends? Who was popular and who wasn't won't matter in a few years, trust me. Just be yourself and trust your instinct. Best of luck! <3
2007-01-26 07:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by broadwaynights87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off. you just don't turn your back on a best friend unless she has done something really bad to you. then she wasn't a Best friend to start .
and just because she has family members you don't care for doesn't give you reason to turn your back on her. if she is better than they are you have no problem or reason to throw away your relationship.
just because she isn't popular is another reason why...true best friends are hard to come by and you have one so keep her.
2007-01-26 07:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its up to you if you want her for a best friend or not. But either way I would not do her homework. Just tell her that she will not benefit from you doing her homework and that you have your own homework.
2007-01-26 07:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋