I am very beautiful, yet so shy and have only one friend who lives in another state. So, I was wondering if thereare any beautiful shy people around and are you like me very lonely? Also, if you are not, why do you think this is? How would you find friends. It seems like anyone I start making friends with fades away...
2007-01-26 07:16:04 · 5 answers · asked by soosool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think being shy is necessarily related to how you look. I think it comes from not knowing what to say or how to start a conversation. That comes from confidence and experience.
If you are nice to people, they should be nice to you. If you are still in high school, it is a lot more difficult to make friends since everyone there is still immature. Still, if you join clubs that you are interested in and talk to the people in your classes you should be able to strike up a friendship after awhile.
I had problems with shyness as a kid and a lot of other people do too, so know that you are not alone in being "shy".
Don't be bold about proclaiming your beauty because that will be off-putting to most people. Focus on other things and don't be a one-upper.
2007-01-26 07:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is your problem and that is mostly all.
I've been told many times I'm very beautiful, and it has given me problems just as its given me advantages, but as a physical quality it is very superficial and who you are boils down to what you act like. Yes, there is a bit of loneliness that comes with it, people can be intimidated to talk to you or think that a pretty face is nothing more. The only way to remedy that is to be open, talk to more people, show them that your smart or funny or caring.
People fade away, its a fact of life, and even the best of people will because of the things going on in their own lives. So join some new activities, make some friends, in time you will find that many will leave but some, a very special few, will stay with you for life... and learn that even the ones that remain for a short time can be valuable to you.
Have confidence in yourself and focus on whats beautiful inside, that will make the loneliness go away on its own.
2007-01-26 15:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by uberzwitter67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem! I could tell you some stories... lol.
I wish I knew why as well, being shy, I think about a lot of things. I try to analyse why people act the way they do. I am open and talkative when someone talks to me, but I find it hard to start a conversation on my own. I dont know what to say that would be interesting to that person, and I dont want to sound stupid. So, I end up not saying anything at all, and then people refer to me as the shy girl, or the quiet girl. It is funny in a way, but tiresome.
2007-01-26 15:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by lllll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you appear to be an introvert and keep to yourself. What you need to do is to break out fo that shell and making a commitment to introduce yourself to 1 new person a week.
Remember your beauty might intimidate people so you need to make the effort to go out of your way to make new friends
2007-01-26 15:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of people feel intimidated by a beautiful person, maybe they feel they might get rejected, maybe your friends fade away because you are to into yourself or too shy you have to learn how to be a little outgoing maybe join a club of some sort.
2007-01-26 15:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋