Please help me?

Question

I am 16 years old and i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend 3weeks ago, before he came he pulled out and i still got my period the next week, but my lower stomach region is really sore and tender, it comes and goes. Could i be pregnent

My moods have been really up and down the last week or so, which is unusual for me . 1 minute i am really happy, the next i cry at nothiing, then i get really angry at nothing!

Answer 1

Pulling out isn't a safe form of birth control. Sperm is present before ejaculation, so you can still get pregnant.

Even if you did get your period, you could still be pregnant. Since it's been 3 weeks, you could probably take a pregnancy test and get an accurate reading. Go get one to ease your own mind. At least then you'll know. Not knowing could also be causing the mood shifts. Unexpected pregnancies, especially when you're so young, are great sources of stress. Once you know then you can move on from there.

Answer 2

Sperm is present before a man puts a condom on so the pull out method is not the best way to prevent pregnancy. All of the signs are there specially the mood swings. I suggest you take a home pregnancy test most of them are 99 % correct and just to make 100 % sure go to a doc and get checked out. That is the only way you will really know for sure... There is so many youngsters that use this method and get pregnant.....

Answer 3

u r 16 and ur hormones r high that are triggering ur mood swings. don't worry! if u have had ur periods after sex then it can't be pregnancy. so, stop worrying about that. & about the soreness in the lower stomach area, it could be some infection which u should see ur doctor for. & a suggestion. never go for unprotected sex. u can contract disease as well as get pregnant as the pull out method is not safe. keep ur dignity and ask ur boyfriend to use condoms.

Answer 4

Yes you could be. Do the grown up thing as you are doing grown up things. Get a test, IE Boots of a fiver and get some protection. If he loves you then you should BOTH be using something.

All of the protection is free if you go to the Doctor/Family Planning Clinic.

Of course you will now need an Aids test and all of the STDs etc.
Hope you are OK.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

It sounds like you could be even though your partner pulled out before he came there is still pre *** some sources say that you can still get pregnant by that. Try not to worry about it and get tested in a couple of weeks. It may be just something minor but get tested anyway. Good LuckXX

Answer 6

First of all, now that you are sexually active you need to start going for yearly exams with a gynolocologist. Im pretty sure your not pregnant but you could take a test to know for sure. As far as your moods... honey your 16 all 16 year olds go through that. Good Luck and Take Care.

Answer 7

The only way to tell for sure is to take a test and then take it from there. The sooner you do it the sooner you will know. Hope all goes ok! x

Answer 8

It doesn't sound very likely, but take a test to put your mind at rest.
If you are not...Please don't risk it again. Get him to use condoms.

Answer 9

do a test

Answer 10

I will check back... Please add why you had unprotected sex with your boyfriend or thought him pulling out would not get you pregnant... Seriously trying to find out why people do this. Likewise why you did not know the instant the willy touches your vagina you could get pregant due to pre ***....

Didn't they tell you not to do that in school or this stuff.

As these agencies your questions


www.ruthinking.org.uk
www.childline.org.uk

www.4yp.co.uk

www.fpa.org.uk

www.brook.org.uk

www.drugscope.org.uk

www.lifeline.org.uk

www.talktofrank.com

Ask those whose job it is to answer these things ho tell you the truth.

Not your mates or any tom dick or Harry here.

That’s like asking a Hairdresser how to fix you cars breaks

Truth is yes especially if you are a teenager whose cycles may not have stabilised. Though most guys would be like euuuuw

Sperm stays around for a week inside you and sometimes especially teen girls have multiple ovulations or varying cycles.



Whilst at it

You can also get pregnant is the guy pulls out as

A) Guys in teens come in seconds with no control, be even if they *** over your vagina it still works (see below)

B) Willies as soon as still leak drops of sperm to moisturise and lubricate the willy... Guy can't feel them but each drop contains millions of sperm, one will do the trick. When he comes its billions instead that’s all.

2) You can’t get pregnant from a BJ unless you spit it out onto you fingers or other item which touches you down there

3) Anything oil based i.e. chocolate or ice cream makes tiny holes in condom rubber like acid that sperm can get through in seconds. (Polyurethane ones like Durex Avanti are immune to them)

4) IMPORTANT

ANY way ANY sperm get on, in or near you vagina can get you pregnant... sperm swims in wet environments and can swim across your thigh and into your vagina. If it’s wet its alive outside the body. If the guy spills drops, drips, humps your leg and cums near, on you belly and it dribbles down on you butt even in it and it dribbles out and down between you legs, is wiped,

You sit on a 'wet patch' he comes on you panties and it goes through the material (well are they rubber? if water gets through so does ***).

Or on fingers say when he took the condom off and got some on fingers and did not wash his hands or willy after.


ALL can get you pregnant... So it’s smart to get on the patch, injection or implants... Follow the instructions i.e. certain drugs, medicines, vitamins like antibiotics or St Johns worth will stop it working temporarily.

But won’t stop STDs which you can get from oral sex if cuts or ulcers in mouth (likewise herpies from cold sores) or eye contact say touching eyes.


And as blood borne say STDs can come from first aid or open wounds say in sports or an accident.


So still wear condoms as well.


And practice using them as it’s not as easy as it sounds. One **** up and life fucked up.

No extra lives.

And practice getting morning after pills ie where to go so you know and on a sunday or say xmas day.

AND IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG AND YOU THINK THERE IS A-N-Y DANGER OF GETTING PREGNANT YOU DO N-O-T WASTE TIME ASKING SILLY QUESTIONS HERE OR WITH YOUR MATES OR THINK WE'LL BE OK...


YOU
GET
YOU
BUTT
TO
GET
A MORNING AFTER PILL

95% gonner work if taken within 24 hours (so don’t wait and ask questions here and on a Sunday or say xmas day go to hospital) that’s 5% you going to get pregnant

25-48 hours (two days and nights)
Its only 85% efficets that’s 15 % chance you will get pregnant

After 2 days its only 58% effective (much like flipping a coin)

You may be able to get a IUD coil as well.

IN OTHER WORDS NO QUERSTIONS ON COULD I BE PREGNANT… GO AND GET THE DAMN PILL OR BETTER STILL HAVE SOME IN THE HOUSE JUST IN CASE… BUT ITS FOR EMERGENCIES…

Proper contraception is better ie depro injections AND condoms.

THAT NIGHT OF FOLLOWING MORNING EVEN IF BUNKING OFF SCHOOL OR WORK... TRUST ME BRING PROOF AND THEY WILL THINK YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.

EVERY HOUR COUNTS...


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As for any possible abortion or adoption read this....


In order for you to do this properly you have to look at the big picture.


And here's a thought... if abortion is murder then why are so many anti abortionists the ones who support the death penalty and wars in Iraq? With Muslims being very anti abortion but strangely having no problem with teenagers being stoned to death, stow strangle hung, beheaded for making love outside marriage or being gay. Not to mention centuries of inquistions, sectarian relgious wars, witch burning etc.

Funny how the most anti abortion folk would probably be in the holy land which has always been at war.

Have supplied web links check them out.
Likewise they will describe it in a bloody context… er ANY OPERATION IS BLOODY.

Plus how’s this for a thought

Think if all kids were adopted, with a demand for kids (i.e. these fictional parents crying out for the kid they can't have) why would there be orphanages and kids homes where kids get abused till turfed out to be homeless on the streets, turning into addicts to escape from the pain and becoming street prostitutes to pay for the drugs and food till they caught aids and stds?

Plus talk about a bunch of cells or biological construction site as a person… Its not… no personality, awareness, memories, likes, dislikes, nothing.

Don’t simply look at abortion in isolation but in context with religious values in general with the main religions...


Firstly most are dominant male figure based.

Male primary reproduction strategy is to have as many babies as possible regardless of well being for females or children.

Now in a religion... more babies = more potential followers, giving more potential money, siding with you in political and social thinking and opinion siding more with the religion.


Now look at say sex based moral code...


say gays and lesbians... Considered immoral but where’s the harm? Other then not having lots of babies and acting as natural birth control for society.


Look at attitudes on sex Ed... They want as little as possible or none at all or as late as possible. Knowing teenagers won’t be able to abstain and end up doing it and getting pregnant then getting married and under control in baby production units.


Look at religious attitudes to contraception... unless useless methods.

Look at attitudes to sex amongst single people as generally with contraception whilst in a marriage often forming families and making babies.

Look at attitudes to masturbation (i.e. wasted reproductive matter and fun no baby) likewise porn.


Notice how anti girls using sexuality not to make babies but controlling males I.e. pole dances making loads of money but not hurting others. No babies.


Notice how there are no commandments against rape or child abuse i.e. child rapist... the earlier started the more babies. And thinking girls are only useful for making babies and looking after them.


Notice how many priests get accused of child abuse or how in the 3rd world where parent cant look after the kids the church is still anti condom and anti contraception even in marriage so lots of child prostitutes starving and homeless on the streets.


Now have another look at anti morning after pill, gays, contraception, sex Ed, masturbation, sex toys, porn, no anti rape laws.

All about sex only no babies and then look at anti abortion groups in a new light.


And no it’s not a baby with personality, feelings, emotions, etc it’s a bunch of cells...

Look also at the churches idea of adoption and how it treats girls

'The Magdalene Sisters' should be in your video shop but the TV drama 'sinners' was more accurate if you can find it.
Over 30,000 were involved up till 1996...how old were you at that time?
How many of your friends, you or your sister could have ended up here.

http://www.thewildgeese.com/pages/magdal...

http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen....

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0380703/...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/dra...
Original documentary available from

http://cgi.ebay.com/sex-in-a-cold-climat...


How it tries to force young child rape victims to give birth even though will probably kill and certainly be very traumatic and painful for girls as young as 9 ripping vaginas and how does a nine year old cope with a baby?

and as mentioned allowing aids to spread and kids on the street as long as baby production kept up

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/pa...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/pressoffice/pressre...

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/pa...

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/pa...

And how the church supports child rape and sick perversions like women raped with dogs showing its true attitudes to women.

http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/news/artic...

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/internati...

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/internati...

Vatican support for mass murders who like raping women with dogs

http://www.guardian.co.uk/print/0,,38097...

http://www.remember-chile.org.uk/comment...

http://select.nytimes.com/gst/abstract.h...



Also many kids who are adopted or fostered or especially in kids homes and double that for church run ones... grow up abused in various ways including sexually and very abused emotionally as teenagers ending up junkies or street hookers, homeless on the streets...


but that don’t matter to the religious they just want their number count up...


And regardless of housing crisis, lack of jobs, lack of food, etc.

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So new perspective huh?

With abortion allowing women to control their lives and in reality foetuses not being human.

But hidden agenda of the sexist religious.


Stay rational and have a proper think what’s best not get emotionally blackmailed when venerable into something you will regret. Such as having a kid you can't look after properly as kid would suffer too. And often would do more so if ending up in foster homes, especially religious run ones or adopted by bad people.


Think if all kids were adopted, with a demand for kids why would there be orphanages and kids homes where kids get abused till turfed out to be homeless on the streets, turning into addicts to escape from the pain and becoming street prostitutes to pay for the drugs and food till they caught aids and STDs?