i feel that i have SO much to do in a day....compared to my husband. once you have children...there is so much to do..cooking, cleaning, laundry, child rearing...AND working a job - whilst my husband occassionally helps...i feel that a woman has much more to do than a man...do you feel like that?
2007-01-26 06:44:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As you can plainly see by these answers, all couples are different, as all men are different.
In Our house, we both work full time. At home, I do the "traditional" female chores, he does the male. He is in charge of the outside of the house and garage, I am in charge of all inside duties. He also will cook and is VERY good at it and if he gets home from work early start dinner and throw a load of laundry in. He is also the one who carts the kids around to scouts and their sports...........not me.......it works for Us. Besides, I am like the one lady who wrote she is a perfectionist....I AM TOO! LOL! I like things in my home a certain picky way so I realize, if I want things done MY way, I have to do it myself!
Good Question.
2007-01-26 07:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that all men are not my husband, but in my house I do all the house work. Including mowing the lawn and taking out the trash. I move the furniture around when I want it different and then he comes home and wonders what I did. LOL But to be fair to my husband he works 50 hours a week if not more and brings home the so called "bacon" so should he have to come home and help me clean? Im not sure. Some days I get so frustrated with doing it all by myself, and others Im glad that I can help him be happy in our home and not have to tire himself out trying to help me do stuff. So I guess every marriage is different. If you want some help talk to him and ask him if he would be willing to help you out. Let him know how tired you are of cleaning and so on maybe he will get the drift and started helping every once in a while.
Good Luck
2007-01-26 07:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of taking all the work, you would be wiser to make a list of things that need to be done, and then decide together who gets what. You'll find on the list things one person doesn't mind that the other one hates -- those are the easy ones, because they should go to the person who doesn't mind them. The ones that both hate to do (say, cleaning toilets, for example), you can switch off from week to week. By choosing to take the entire list onto yourself, without communicating about the issue, you have screwed yourself. Well, it's never too late to correct this particular mistake.
2007-01-26 07:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are Very Strong* We can do multi task things..every single day * It's quite overwhelming just how much we do . I'm glad your husband helps out occasionally....maybe if you write down every thing you do in one day and show him that a lil help Everyday from him would make life much more pleasant for you*~
Communication is the key* He can't help you if you don't ask* He may feel he's putting in enough effort......but if you talk with him and let him know you do need a lil more of His effort in helping out with the kids and with things around the house. Why can't he make dinner one night and then run a bath for you to relax in after a long hard day* Just a suggestion........not an everyday thing.......but ask for him to "hear" what you're saying* Take the time to "listen" to what you are suggesting* GoodLuck*
2007-01-26 07:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have to disagree with "fucose", I've been in my wife's shoes when she had a difficult pregnancy that lasted 7 of the 9 months. I learned to do it all! Bites when you get home from an exhausting day at work, just to start you second career, house husband! It opened my eyes to the fact that women are definitely under appreciated. Then again so are house husbands. Naw, she really gave me allot of kudos during that time. Cool thing is, I fell in love with cooking and now seem almost anal when it comes to keeping this place clean!
2007-01-26 07:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest cross that women carry is the delusion that they have it so much worse than men.
Nobody gets (or should get) a free ride. If YOUR husband is a lazy loser who does nothing, well, sorry, but we're not all like that.
Although we USUALLY (not always, of course) have the more demanding jobs. This leaves less time and energy to help in the house.
We usually tend to have the more physically demanding household chores such as "carry this ultra-heavy thing" or mowing the lawn.
btw in my house I wash most of the clothes and she puts them away. I do all the cooking. She cleans the floors. We both work full time.
2007-01-26 06:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-01 08:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by nocera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, taking care of children is not 'work.' What pays the bills is 'work.' If a woman chooses to have a kid, she should voluntarily accept all the inconveniences that come with it. Men have a disproportionate responsibility for earning the money, and working a demanding job is much more difficult than giving the baybee a juice box. When women become truly equal, that is, provide 50% of the income, then they might have something to complain about.
2007-01-26 07:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes we do but, Whom he called he also equipped. It's hard but think about Mary. We are the stronger ones but it's because we can handle what's on our plates. Men have to a lot also. They just deal with it differnt. Try to change your schedule where you can and rember to count it all joy. have fun with your kids there only that age for so long. There is a huge reward at the end of the journey.
2007-01-26 07:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way also. Sometimes I feel like I am alone in all of it and ask myself why do I have a partner?? In my opinion, us women handle all of these things in a day but try to put the weight of all of it on a man and he couldnt handle it for 5 min. I think it goes to show how strong we are handling being a daycare center, chef, housekeeper, laundromat, taxi, etc, etc,
2007-01-26 07:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋