For my girlfriends recent birthday I bought her a digital camera and also gave her £75 worth of vouchers for next. She is still paying of student debts and is always moaning how she wants to buy clothes instead of paying her fees. When we go out she looks at lovely things but will not let me buy them for her (she's excellent in that way) so I thought buying vouchers for her birthday would allow her to buy some nice things. However, she has just informed me that she will be buying things to go to work in. To say the least i'm not best pleased as I explained that she has to buy things to go to work in, the vouchers were meant as a treat to buy things that she really wanted for her. Am I in the wrong to say that the intention was for her to buy nice things for when she / we go out, not for when she goes to work ?
I suppose I will be expected to get excited when she shows me a nice pair of black trousers that she has bought - well I wont be.
Any advice ???
2007-01-26 06:43:31 · 28 answers · asked by dave j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks for all your answers, just to add, she's a primary school teacher and has loads and loads of things to wear for work. I bought the vouchers as an extra suprise - she really wanted a camera for when she visits her uni friends. When we go out I am always hit with the age old statement "i've got nothing to wear". As i said before I always offer to buy her things when were out but she never allows. She's an excellent girlfriend in the fact that she insists on paying her way for absoutely everything. I didn't buy the vouchers for her to look good for me especially, it was meant to be a gift for her as she is always saying she needs new trainers, would love a nice pair of jeans, really likes the look of that top etc etc. Women really are a mystery !!
2007-01-26 07:08:49 · update #1
both wrong you should have brought her the clothes she was hinting at but she shouldnt have gone mad as you where doing something nice and obviously was worried about picking the wrong thing. Next time i suggest going with her shopping and just pay for the clothes there and then.
2007-01-26 06:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by katie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was really sweet that you gave her money to buy something nice for her self. I would have got something sexy to wear in the same day. Not many guys out there ask to buy stuff for girls.If she is to blind to see what you wanted to do for her, she is in the wrong. I would just let her keep dreaming her life away if she wants to play like that. Don't feel sad she did not get what you wanted her to get. Just next time buy the clothes for her birthday she wanted and if she still gets mad then she is not very nice and a card should do for birthdays.
2007-01-26 15:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had wanted your girlfriend to bring something home that will excite you then you should have bought her vouchers for ann summers! or even better gone out and bought some sexy undies for her yourself...... but really you cant tell your girlfriend what to buy, the vouchers were a gift so just let her use them to buy what she wants and if thats work clothes then so be it. Next time your out and she points out something nice (thats not for work) sneakily go back to the shop and buy it for her and give her it as a surprise....am sure she will be delighted.
2007-01-26 14:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, tell her she must treat herself. You're a very thoughful boyf and you just want her to have nice things. If i get given money for bday or xmas i usually spend it on day to day things then regret it later, so go shopping with her and if she looks at any nice going out clothes say how wonderful she'd look in it! If she's anything like me she'll have loads of stuff to wear to work! You tell her!
2007-01-26 14:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you give a gift, especially a voucher, it is not up to you what it goes toward. If she feels work attire is a priority over frilly things impractical to her, it should make you feel better that she is a responsible person and worthy of your gifts. I know as a parent, my daughter is always in hock over her head, I give her money to help her out and find out she eats out or goes party on it, amkes me mad that so many young people don't manage money as well as we did at that age.
2007-01-26 14:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe say to her that you thought she would treat herself to something nice to go out in the evenings with as a treat. She could buy something that would work for both. A work outfit that can be transformed in the evening with a different sext top or something!!! Best of luck.
2007-01-26 14:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by jdlover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah go with her when she spends them and tell her she isn't getting work clothes she has top get something you can take her out in (why not take her for a meal or something I knwo its an extra cost but at least she might buy nice hings instead of work stuff)
2007-01-26 14:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your a really nice guy and very thoughtful your girlfriend might just be a bit annoyed about not having lots to spend on herself!! That presant sounds great shes lucky
2007-01-26 15:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww bless you sound so sweet!! i think maybe she just really needs some clothes for work, why dont you offer to pay for her work clothes? and then she can keep her voutchers for herself, maybe she feels she will be saving money and trust me i have been there, i have two kids and if we get voutchers it usualy goes on new shoes or food, i never have anything for myself you have to show her how to treat herself i guess... she is lucky you sound lovely! dont boss her about tho, if she truesly wants to buy work clothes let her! maybe she likes her clothes that she goes to work in...
2007-01-26 14:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by chickL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously your first girlfriend. They are always like this. When my Mum bought my Dad two ties for Christmas he wore one the next day he went to work. She got really upset and said "What's wrong with the other one?"
AAAAAGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! Women.
You will not understand it but just get used to it but.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 14:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by malejocelyn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋