My son just found out hes going to be a father at barley 17!?

Question

His girlfriend is 15 (almost 16 ) .I think i am more concerned for her because I was a teenage mom too.I know how hard it was for me. We are going with her to tell her father the news any suggestions on how to break it to him?

Due to negative comments made i thought i would give some details : her parents are divorced, she lives with her father, We have told our son about birth control since he was 13.and yes i got pregnate at 16 and i am still with that same man, my sons father! for 18 years.

my son works with his father every day and is very responsable.

Answer 1

Everyone is always so concerned over the mother-to-be. I've talked with several parents whose teenage sons came to them crying hysterically over their impending fatherhood. Which is to say, don't blow off your son's emotions in the matter. He's probably terrified, but being an American male, is trying hard not to show it.

It's good that you're involved. I don't envy you having to face the girl's father. I'd say to try to stay calm and rational no matter what his reaction.

If the boy and girl already have some idea of what they want to do next, that's a good starting point. I have a friend who blew off the kids' plans, did his own "research" and made them re-consider all their options as though their decision was unimportant, and now the kids (who are happily married 20 years later) still avoid him as much as they can.

Good luck and God bless.

(I've learned that it's pointless to defend yourself here--negative people just like being negative, don't take it personally.)

Answer 2

I'm going to guess that when the boyfriend and the boyfriend's parents file in, he knows something pretty serious is going on. He'll probably say, "Omg, Sally, are you pregnant?" and then she can start crying and say yes.

He is going to freak out. At least my father would have. He also would have started threatening (or actually, who really knows?) to shoot someone. Then there would have been marriage talk.

Has she already decided what she wants to do? Is she going to keep it? If she is, you'd better be prepared for her to move in with you and to raise another child.

I am pushing adoption on this issue, I think you could all benefit.

Answer 3

If your son "is very responsible", then why is he getting girls pregnant?

Anyways, I would suggest an abortion or putting the baby up for adoption. But, if they really want to destroy both their lives and their educations, then you should tell the father that they really love each other and they feel that is most important in raising a child.

Answer 4

Nope. You should have done more to make sure the cycle didn't continue - birth control, condoms, talking to the girl's parents, keeping track of your son, etc. You should be just as concerned for your son as you are for the daughter. He will have to pay child support and be a supportive, consistent father in the baby's life.

Something tells me your son didn't grow up with a father. Please don't let that part of the cycle continue.

They might be better off telling her dad without you - he'll be even more pissed off to think he's the last to find out.

Answer 5

i imagine you should enable him come to you. keep in contact with him for little issues, like remembering his birthday or asking occasional questions... have a valentine? what's up for spring smash? chuffed new 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. those occasional messages will enable him recognize that he's on your innovations, and could create an open door for verbal change. if he replies with one note solutions, he's not waiting, yet he would merely provide you with some perception into who he's. merely make effective you keep him up as a lot as now consisting of your contact tips. make effective he can locate you at the same time as he begins searching, because he will ultimately want to understand you and extra about his mom

Answer 6

You are just going to have to give it to him - He may get mad, angry etc, but after the storm - if you can all work together it can benefit the baby. (and ultimately thats what you all want)

I was a young mum and my partner was 17 - Now 8 years later, although we are not together, he is a good Dad, and always around when she needs him.

Good Luck Granny :-) !!!

Answer 7

I am not sure how to break it to him but I think you should be there for her no matter what. If (worse case senario) he were to kick her out offer to take her in. She is going to need support from everyone especially if her father doesn't take it well(but you probably already know that).

Answer 8

Good Luck. If it were my daughter I would be plenty upset. Hopefully you can all work together to help them get it going in the right direction.

Answer 9

just be supportive to her even if you do not agree, this is her choice and only hers, and be there for your son and make sure even if they are not going to work things out that he is there for her and his child, and make sure her father knows that your son will be there i am sure he wont be to supportive at all, i mean come on his baby girl is going to have a baby... i had my first at 17 i am 20 now and having my third, i love my children i will be starting college this summer for a bsn and everything is going to work out i am married to their father and all is well except for the minor disagreements

Answer 10

Well....its an unfortunate situation, seing how young they both are, but I would just recomend you to sit down, and let him know the situation, and work out what they want to do about it, and what YOU would want to do about it. Good luck.