Well i'm going out with this guy, and i really trust him and all, and he's talked to me about if i'd be comftorble if he fingered me, i trust him alot but i'm just scared of the pain..i'm a virgin and i've never been fingered i'm 17 by the way..
i just want to know if theres pain, and if there is, is there anyway to help it?
2007-01-26 06:36:26 · 14 answers · asked by pookie 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
NO, it doesn't hurt. But make sure that you are really into doing this. Don't let him pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable. If it at any moment its not fun anymore just tell him to stop. Exploring your sexuality is fun, but only if you are ok with it. If you are have fun and keep it safe.
2007-01-26 06:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There could be some pain or discomfort, depending on the size of his fingers, and how gentle he is. If he uses lube, and is gentle, you should not experience any pain--you will get used to the feeling. Try K-Y jelly or Astroglide and you should be okay. Good luck!!
2007-01-26 14:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it's actually a great feeling. It may be tender the first time, but take it slow and make sure your in the mood for it, otherwise it will hurt. Lube is good to use, and maybe one finger to start. Make sure you truly like this guy, but enjoy it!
2007-01-26 15:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Elle3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be any pain if you are just getting fingered. If you are scared, you shouldn't do it...it should be pleasant. If you are with him and you feel really good your body will tell you if it wants more, listen to your inner woman....being comfortable is whats important, and don't worry about saying no to him if you aren't uncomfortable. Good luck sista!
2007-01-26 14:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Zimmy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to finger you if you are dry; that could be painful. He needs to stroke and caress your clitorial area and make you aroused so that you'll have natural lubrication before he fingers you. Relax if you are ready. But remember NO means NO if you don't want things to progress.
2007-01-26 14:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by bama_beth 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A finger is quite slim and unless he's jamming it in there and being really rough, it shouldn't hurt at all. It should be quite pleasurable.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't do it just b/c he wants to. 1.) because it's YOUR BODY 2.) b/c if you're not aroused enough and producing enough vaginal fluid, then it WILL hurt ... I gaurantee it
So if you're making out and you can feel your body getting all revved up... then go for it. If you've used a tampon, you're okay for a finger or two. :-)
2007-01-26 14:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by jokesbyjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay relaxed and tell him what you like. Make sure he is nice and gentle and goes slowly. Also, make sure he will stop if you feel any pain or become uncomfortable.
2007-01-26 14:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Horsetrainer89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thiers not any pain that goes along with it...Just tell him to be gentle with you...It feels "GREAT" by the way...
2007-01-26 14:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Shyness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u id have sex with him pop your cherry properly have a penis inside u the 1st time not a finger they both feel good but i prefer a nice big cocck
2007-01-26 15:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, getting fingered is the best thing to do. It doesnt hurt unless he's ruff, and it will prepare you for sex.
2007-01-26 14:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by Bored Much 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋