The divorce rates are almost up to 50%. So, why risk it? Why not just live together without getting hitched. That way, if anything should happen, you can just leave. You don't have to go through the divorce torment. It's much easier that way.
2007-01-26 06:32:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If that's what you want, go for it. There are several financial (lower married tax rates; cheaper insurance for spouses than insuring each separately) & legal reasons (illness power of attorney; distribution of property in the event of death), but if those aren't worth it to you, then don't get married. I think one very strong reason to get married is if you are going to have children. Yes, many marriages break up anyway, but you're giving your children the greatest chance for a stable family life if you are both willing to stand up in front of witnesses and solemnly vow to stay together until death do you part. As for me, I've never regretted getting married. I have two daughters, one 13 and one 9, and my wife & I have been married for 20 years.
2007-01-26 06:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the difference between people who get married and stay married and people who get married and get divorced. There is no leaving you get married to show and tell the world that this is the one for the rest of my life. You get married to become one. To comment for the rest of your life this person is all I want and we want to go through the good and bad of life together. If you have concerns going in to marriage or on certain thing that will cause you to leave then don't bother getting married. Being married doesn't mean you are never going to get mad at this person nor does it mean it's going to be perfect for ever. To be married and stay married take love, struggle,growth and patience and even a little anger. But it's worth it to know that the person you are with has your back and won't bail out on you just because times are tough or because the don't like something. It might seem easier to be single but then you miss out on all the benefits that a real marriage has.
2007-01-26 14:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your question, but as half of a happy 36 yr. old marriage, I'd have to say it's just a formality, but one that two people in love should have no problem with.
The biggest problem facing any new relationship is having a sufficient amount of mutual tolerance, respect and forgiveness.
Too many people are just not mature enough to sustain a long term relationship.
And, too many people do not fully understand the meaning of commitment.
Look at it this way. Whether you're married or just living together, you're going to make some mistakes. You're human.
It's how you DEAL with those mistakes that makes ALL the difference.
Does that help?
PS - Well said, Carlos!
2007-01-26 17:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because this absolves the guy from any responsibility. What happens when you get pregnant (you'll call it an accident) and he decides this relationship is just not for him. By allowing men to talk you into irresponsible co-habitation, you destroy any chance at security, TRUE love, responsibility, and you don't allow the person you shack up with to grow in maturity. Why grow up when you have all you want for free with no strings attached. So marriage is a 50/50 crap shoot. There are ways to whittle that number down. Like looking for maturity, wisdom, strength of character, and fidelity. None of which you get with living together with no responsibility needed.
2007-01-26 14:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that divorce is a hassle, and very painful. I believe that even in the midst of the high divorce rate, some get married still because of religious or moral reasons.
2007-01-26 14:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by beachbum_susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married twice and wonder why I did it too.
With 50% chance of divorce, I guess you would have to figure that if I didn't want one my wife probably would and sure enough it happened.
It has been proven though, that marriage is the #1 cause of divorce.
2007-01-26 17:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good point that you make and it does have logic. However, the whole point of marrige is spending the rest of your life with this person. I think a better question should be that why are the divorcee's quick to file divorce for little things that could possibly be work out with counselling?
2007-01-26 14:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by LOS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! What a question. Let me try. I'll share what I think is the best response to a broad question. People get married for a number of reasons, they may want to give their children their names, they may want to become part of a society that puts great value on marriage, it could be their religion that moves them to marry, it could be to gain citizenship, it could be because they want the fairy tale. Some people still believe in "happily ever after" and they want very much to have that experience.
And most importantly of all, people get married because they love one another and want to share their lives.
The End
2007-01-26 14:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get married because they love each other some people get married because they think they're in love some people get married because the girl got pregnant and they don't want to have a child out of wedlock. Some because they are lonely and would do anything to be with someone.
2007-01-26 14:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is suppose to be a sacred thing- i think that's why people get married, but then forget to honor the rest of the deal- and get divorced
2007-01-26 14:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋