DO MEN GO THROUGH SUCH PAINS TO STEAL A married PERSON?

Question

The woman my husband left us for, but just dumped, met him when her daughter was in my daughter's art class. She then joined organizations that he belonged to and then referred business to him. Before you know it . . .
Anyway, have you ever heard of men going to such extremes?
OK. all of the "other women" and women insecure in their marriages will write that "you apparently were not doing something right or he wouldn't have strayed." OK. If that makes you feel better. People admit years laterthat nothing the person could have done would have quelled his or her need to roam. Sex like Angelina, housekeeping like the mom in father knows best, income like Oprah. It doesn't matter. Anyway, have you heard an similar story involving a man?

Answer 1

For every married man cheating, we have a willing female on the other end who is helping break the marriage.

Answer 2

I don't think so, but I bet it happens. In most of the couples I know where someone cheated, the man was cheating. The only one I know where the woman was cheating, she was with a coworker WHILE AT WORK!!!! This guy made her feel beautiful and wanted, etc., etc., etc. I think this guy definitely made use of the fact that he had contact with her while her husband wasn't around to treat her like a queen. This is a kind of manipulation. Many men will pull the "I wouldn't treat you like that. I think you're the most beautiful woman in the world" lines to get married/involved women. Like I said, though, that's the only couple I know that involved the wife cheating.

You're right. It doesn't matter how good a wife you are. It is never the victim spouse's fault when the other one commits infidelity. The spouse would have done it anyway.

Answer 3

First off...you can't steal people they are human beings and can think and do for themselves, unlike an object or pet...even a child can be stollen (an adult but that is on the lines of kidnapped or abducted, not what your referring to here).

I knew a man, at the time this happened, he was 18, the female 24, she was married...she worked in a cafe' and he patronized the place 3 or 4 times a day, flirting with her, making her feel special, he even bought a hot-rod that he knew she would love since cars were her passion. Now, money was tight for the married couple, but for the boy of 18, not married, working and living with his parents he was able to buy her flowers on V-Day, presents on her birthday, holidays were like her birthday 10X over. She thinks, "why scrimp and do without when I could be with this young man and have everything I want"? She divorces her husband and marries this young buck, 18 months into the marriage another comes along, offers her bigger gifts, likes to party and foots all the bill (she can't party with her new husband because he now works a lot of overtime to buy/pay-off nice things for her) so she divorces the young one for another. Women like this are fickle and love doesn't matter to them, it's what they can get from a man that is important. What happened to the young buck? He grew up fast...learned a hard lesson...no longer wanting what others had before him because he may very well get the same as they in return.

Answer 4

Two of my girlfriends at one time were involved with married men. Neither of them set out to find them.
They both fell in love, and it seemed, neither of the men told the girls much about their family life. My one friend was so in love (her bf had one grown, one 14 year old). For 3 years she was with the dude (or better without - since he only came to see her when he was fed up at home or needed sex). I often questioned her, 'why'; however, she said, I love him, he loves me, I don't think he'll ever leave her, but why should I dump him and be unhappy, this way, at least I am happy for a while...it took her 3 years to realize (and I believe she was going to extremes also; she got an apartment near him - although she has a house, just so he would me more comfy seeing her, went to meet him at the train station way out of her way, drove 100miles on a whim's notice just to see him), he was not leaving his wife, and she dumped him. He still tries to call her.
The other friend met her 'love' at work. He has 2 small kids, and she kept dreaming...she did feel bad for his wife and kids, but just for selfish reasons she did not want to dump him - she was in love! And she kept justifying, if he is not happy...he dumped her though, I don't know if his wife ever knew.
So, what I'm trying to say, remember, there are always 2 people, involved, and it comes down to our own character sometimes: I believe we are all tempted at one time or another, but it is up to that individual to do or not.

Answer 5

My first husband started fooling around with a girl that was in his class. The pager we bought so people could reach us was suddenly HIS pager and I never saw it anymore (or got to use it). Plus, he was delivering pizzas so he was sneaking over there during deliveries and going out with her between classes. I use to blame myself - If only I'd kept the house cleaner, done my hair differenlty, lost a few pounds - but that stopped after awhile. Like you said, none of those things mattered - even though he said some of them to me. I learned, as do most people, that even if I'd been the perfect wife that I wasn't the problem. My heart goes out to every woman (and man) that has to face this problem. It really hurts, but knowing we're not to blame is very important!

Answer 6

Actually yes.. I myself had what my husband referred to as "the stalker".. he was a friend of mine that did have feelings for me.. when my now husband and i were dating..and although it was made real clear that i chose my husband and just wanted to be friends with him.. he did all he could to try and break us up.. if he found out through the grapevine i was going to be somewhere he'd show up (even if i was with my husband) .. at one point when my husband and i were dating he would show up at the club trying to take pictures of my husband with other women.. there was nothing going on in the pictures.. but he thought if he showed me a picture of him talking to a female and sent it to me and made up a story that id get jealous and leave him... he new i had to go to the airport once, new the day i was flying out that i was leaving in the a.m. and knew where i was going, called the airport found out that there were only 2 flights i could possibly going on and came to the airport and if my husband (bf at the time) went to the bathroom he'd rush up to me and talk to me real quick and when he came back he'd run and hid behind something.. he was sure my husband would eventually screw up and he could waltz into the picture..And even threatened to show up to our wedding .. he was harmless in the fact that i knew he'd never "hurt" me physically.. but he tried none stop for 3 years to woo me..

So yes, some men in love or lust, will go to the same extremes as some women do ..

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Men like to blame the spouse for their actions because they need someone to blame and they don't like admitting they messed up. Not all men but all the men that do cheat. And i do not believe you are expected to be the perfect wife. If you are that is wrong nobody's perfect.

Answer 9

Look things happen and people change. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Every man is going to cheat on you unless you are draining him dry in the bed and he physically has no more left.

RJ

Answer 10

I only read the question title and no more. No married person can be stolen unless they want to be. I hate men.