One of my best friends, who is 17, is 9 weeks pregnant by her ex-boyfriend (aged 16). I am really good friends with her ex (not a relationship, just friends). Everyone else has turned against him because my friend has (wrongly) made out it was his fault for not taking responsibility so I am the only one still talking to him. My friend has also said that her ex is trying to make her have an abortion which isn't true. She has now fallen out with me because I am still talking to her ex, and thinks that if I was a true friend I would ignore him.
I don't know what to do because I don't want to fall out with either of them.
Please help!
2007-01-26 06:19:08 · 16 answers · asked by Elaine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well your "supposed" bff...Really isn't a "bff"...Because if she was a true friend she would not have even thought about making you choose between your friends.I think its great that your still talking to this guy. He is the victum. Because its both your friend and her ex- boyfriends fault. They both made the decision to have sex. So now shes trying to cover up her giultyness. Don't give up on the guy friend. He needs you..Your a great friend.
2007-01-26 12:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by grumpybear0718 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humm a very tricky situation. Tell your friend that you will always be there for her and that you will support her regarding her baby in whatever she decides to do! Maybe she is saying that her ex wants her to have an abortion because she is considering the option herself but is to embarresed / ashamed to admit.
Tell her that you are sorry but you wish to remain friends with her ex but it will not come between your friendship. If she gives you a choice of her or him then tell her that friendship is all about trusting one another and that just because yor friends with the ex doesnt mean you will talk about her behind her back. I am friends with my best mates ex and although she found it difficult at first she is now completly happy about the situation.
2007-01-26 06:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by jdlover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you havent already you should make you friend aware of the fact that it takes 2 to get pregnant she cant fully blame her ex. He obv. has a say in what route she takes but in the end its her body she has control no-one can MAKE her have an abortion. No offence to you, or either of your friends but she doesnt sound mentally mature enough to have a child. Good Luck to all x
2007-01-26 06:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest its both of their responsibility to to precautions and use protection. Its not fair that one party is held more accountable than the other.
Your friend is being very immature here. Tell her that you are not taking sides (which I assume you are not).
I do however wonder whether your friend would still be acting the same if she wasnt pregnant. Maybe she is just annoyed that as one of her best friends you are still talking to her ex.
2007-01-26 06:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by ed.knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends ex boyfriend need's to be responable for his baby and abortion is murder in god's eyes its a humen being and it didn't ask to be a seed in your friend's belly its still a baby they need to think of it and she need's to think about if she can give her baby every thing it needs or if she's putting her or him up for adoption or if shes keeping the baby its not your fault it was them that made that baby so don't blame yourself that they didn't use birth control
2007-02-03 02:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the time being your friend needs you,explain to her ex im sure he will understand.When she gets over the shock she might calm down.
2007-02-03 01:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUGGEST THAT ALL THREE OF YOU SIT TOGETHER AND HAVE A FAIR DISCUSSION. DONT BECOME A FOOTBALL TO GET KICKED BY OTHER TWO. BOTH OF YOUR FRIENDS APPEAR TO BE EMPTY IN THE HEAD AND HAVE DONE A THING WHICH WOULD HAVE BEEN NOT THAT BAD IF IT WAS DONE FIVE YEARS FROM NOW.IN ANY CASE BOTH OF THEM DO NOT DESERVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND. TAKE CARE
2007-02-03 01:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by srikant b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like everyone is so embarrased of themselves that they have to find someone to blame it on. since you are the one that is friends with each, you are caught in the middle. all that had to happen is for them not to have sex. they both were involved and neither is solely responsible.
2007-02-02 15:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by matt p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is being way to immature. someone needs to smack her and make her realize that it takes 2 to tango. she is just as much responsiblle as the male is when it comes to protceting against pregnancy. dont even waste your time trying to be her friend. you dont need to prove anything. she is wrong for treating him that way and making false accusations. is he sure that it is his? just make sure he knows that if it is he needs to take every bit of responsibility he can. bc she can screw him over faster than anything
2007-01-26 06:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by JENN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not your fault your two friends are idiots. However you should not be a whipping boy for either of them. Its their bed let them lie in it.
2007-01-26 06:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by malejocelyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋